With the passage of time, it may seem like you are losing control of your relationship, while your partner is the one controlling the relationship. But, don’t you stress over it.
What does dominant mean in a relationship?
Being dominant is a personality trait of having a decisive role in the relationship. The dominant partner in relationships holds the control, and they sanction most of the ongoings of the relationship.
A marriage or relationship is never 50/50. It is always 100/100, with both the partners going the extra mile to help it last. Having a dominant role in a relationship comes with a lot of responsibility.
There are various types of dominant relationships based on who holds power in the relationship. Know them below:
Dominants and subordinates
In a submissive and dominant marriage or relationship, there is always one dominant partner holding charge of things in the relationship while the other partner is the submissive one. Here, the roles are defined, and there is no relaxation of roles.
Master & slave relationship
In this type of relationship, one partner consensually submits to the other partner. This is different from the dominant and subordinate relationship because of the intense level of command by the dominant partner. The slave doesn’t voice the opinion in such relationships.
In such relationships, the dominant partner is the man. Here, the woman plays a submissive role, and the man defines the relationship.
As opposed to the male-led vanilla relationship, the female is the dominant partner or the leader of the relationship. She makes most of the decisions in the relationship and sets goals.
In this kind of relationship, both parties hold equal power. They both make decisions and run the relationship. Being equal is one of the signs of a healthy relationship, and it leads to a long-lasting commitment.
If you are planning to take that role, read on as this article will guide you towards dominance in relationships. Below are some rules and tips that will lead you to be the one with all the power.
You may not know this, but your independence is the fundamental trick to prove to your partner that they do not control you. Don’t depend on your partner to take you for groceries or to complete other daily needs. Instead, go out by yourself and get things done. This way, your partner will know that you are able enough to do the chores without them.
Also, go out with your friend circle whenever it is feasible for you. You do not require your partner’s permission for that.
Seek what you deserve
This is one crucial tip to have a dominant personality in the relationships. Never, I repeat never settle for anything less than what you deserve. If you think something is not going the way you want, walk away. It is the right thing to do and show your partner that you need to be treated only the right way.
Do not stay quiet
Didn’t like something your partner did? Tell them. Being dominant in a relationship means confronting your companion. This is the way to go. Also, if there is a doubt about something, clear it up and be honest with them.
Restrain from bottling up your emotions and feelings inside. Moreover, if you want something, ask them straight away and do not hesitate.
Maintain your boundaries
Keeping boundaries is a crucial act in a relationship. One of the signs of dominance in a relationship is that you do not always give in to your partner’s demand because this will make you seem needy to your partner.
For this, first, you need to know your own limits. Then, never let your partner cross any of it. They should know that they will not get off easily with you.
In order to be the dominant partner, you need to be upright and confident. Speak up for yourself. Do not let your partner have control over you. If you feel something is wrong, disclose it to them. Show your partner that you are as equally powerful as them.
Never stay under their foot, but climb up their heads. Do not hesitate while speaking up about your needs. Also, do not hold back in any argument. Express your opinions freely.
Do not always stay available
Go out, enjoy your life. Do not hang up on your friends only because your partner wants you with them.
Show them that you are the dominant partner by letting them know that your life does not only revolve around this relationship, but you have a life outside of it too. You do not always need them in order to have fun. Some time alone is also vital.
Never let your emotions carry you away. Speak up for what is best for you. It is important not always to take the emotional path, but stay firm and talk the matter out like a mature adult. This way, your partner will realize that you cannot be controlled emotionally.
Stand with your words
As the saying goes,
“Actions speak louder than words.”
Never backtrack from your words.
To be a dominant partner, do what you said. If you promised something, fulfill it. Your partner must be aware that you are honest with what you say. You will appear as the weak one if you do not stay firm in your words.
Finally, you need to be completely fair to your partner. If anything goes wrong at your end, tell them and apologize.
In the video below, Jennah Dohms shares the need for true transparency and accountability. It leads to strength, and if we all practice this, it reduces the fear of the future.
Do not hold it back as they may then find you hard to trust. Also, this may prevent your partner from having any advantages over you. So, always have the upper hand in your relationship.
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Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.