It is a well-known fact that men tend to marry women who are much younger than themselves. Generally, most people do not comment on the relationship when the age difference between the partners is up to 10-12 years, but when there is an age gap of over 20 years, and the man is closer to his spouse’s parents, opinions might start to shift towards harsh critique instead. But really, why do women prefer older men?
It is not uncommon to see in Western society couples who have a considerable age difference between the individuals. More than 8% of heterosexual couples have an age gap of at least 10 years, with the man being the older partner in the relationship. In a study done by Justin J. Lehmiller and Christopher R. Agnew, it was found that in only 1% of the couples the woman was partnered with a younger spouse.
It’s in our evolution
The reason as to why sometimes a considerable age difference between partners happens has its roots in evolutionary biology. Reproductive fitness represented a key part in our evolution, and this might explain the phenomenon of the major age gap found between partners.
Men tend to pursue vitality and attractiveness, youthfulness being an indicator of fertility.
Also, males tend to partner up with women who are much younger than they are because of the high prospects of fecundity, and they can also remain fertile for a longer period of time than women do. This, coupled with the fact that older men have amassed resources over the years and experience, is a key factor to why women have a more inclined preference towards them.
Women also partner with men who are much older than they are because they place more importance on their social status and resources that they can provide.
Women tend to look into partners who have the necessary means to offer them security over a long period of time. The older the man is, the more likely is that he has acquired more possessions and power over the years. This means stability, and also that the older male partner will heap gifts, often financially, on to their younger spouse. His power and self-esteem will also grow when he is showcasing his younger partner in society.
They’re more cultured and experienced
Not just wines get better with age, but also men. Women tend to seek partners who are more proficient than they are, who are more versed in life experiences, and who can handle themselves accordingly with manners when they are out in the open eyes of society.
Older men had the time to know the world. They know how to please a woman and what makes her tick deep inside.
Unlike younger men, who have not been through that many life experiences and still want to explore more, older males are seasoned and are more likely to commit and understand their younger partners.
Women who date older men have the certainty that they will never lose them. Older men are more emotionally stable and are more career oriented.
They do not have the time nor the wish to seek other emotional ties with other women, because they know what they want from the beginning. Their adventurous life is gone, and they prefer a homelier atmosphere. They want to be in the comfort of their own house alongside their own spouse. They are not interested in playing games anymore because they have seen a lot in their lives.
Women who date younger guys are more likely to be cheated on by their partners. With older men, this is not an issue, because they know what they want: stability, peace, and marriage.
Dating an older man also has its downs
As it is with everything in life, women who date older men will also probably encounter some issues with their relationship with them. The big age gap between partners (more than a decade) can make sharing cultural values seem a little difficult, and can also cause social awkwardness when the couple is out in the public. Also, chances are that the older male partner will project his need for power and control onto his partner, and just see his spouse as a prize, rather than a loving partner.