Like any other subject, reading about marriage can educate you on the topic and make you better at being married. The best time to start learning more about married life is during your engagement. Engagements exists for a reason and that reason is to give couples time to not only plan their wedding but make the transition from ‘being a couple’ to ‘being a married couple’ more seamless. These books are very helpful during that transition because they allow men and women to gain new insight concerning married life and informs them of what’s ahead. Below are a few highlights of reading premarital books.
Pre-Marriage books cover the basics of a healthy marriage
It is easy to get wrapped up in the bliss and excitement of your engagement. Unfortunately, that bliss makes it easy to overlook some very important aspects of marriage like the basics of a healthy marriage. Most are well aware of the basics but have to take the time to really excel at them. Respect, communication, maintaining the spark and problem solving sound easy enough but many pre-marriage books cover these topics in depth and offer valuable advice that only an expert can provide.
They start a discussion
Reading pre-marriage books together not only present a chance for one-on-one time but also help to start a discussion. Before marriage, many discussions have to take place but sometimes it is hard to start those crucial conversations. Fortunately, the content of these books promote healthy, open conversation that will benefit the relationship in the long run.
The books discuss marital roles
Marital roles, not gender roles, do matter. Once you are married, determining your role in the relationship can be confusing. Being married means you and your partner are a team and in order to work as such, everyone must do their part. These role are not so much about who cooks dinner and who cleans but is more so a division of household responsibilities. Knowing how to split the labor evenly greatly improves a marriage from the start and prevents one person from feeling like they do all the work.