You have updated your status from “In a Relationship” to “Engaged.” Yay!
Your days are now going to be spent in marriage preparation, with lots of details, large and small, to attend to. While preparing for your wedding, have you given some thought to what comes after the wedding?
You will want to see how you both react in real-life situations before you marry, so make sure you travel together, do mundane tasks together, and support each other during the less-pleasant times such as illness, unemployment, or care-giving to a parent.
But, why is this pre-wedding preparation for the bride important?
Although preparation for the wedding is important, it’s more essential to be able to see all the sides of your future spouse, and not only the “dating” side.
3. Physical preparation before marriage
This is not a “beauty ritual” checklist for your wedding day preparation.
Preparing yourself physically for marriage includes a health checkup with an open dialogue about birth control if that is something you will be using after the wedding.
Birth control needs can change over time so this would be a good moment to reevaluate what, if anything, you are using. This part of marriage preparation would also be a good moment to screen for any STDs, and make sure that your bloodwork looks good!
4. Preparing yourself mentally for marriage
Even with the perfect partner, going from single to married can spark some anxiety, especially if you are used to living on your own.
So, while you are immersed in the typical marriage preparation for a bride, ongoing discussions with your future spouse about how you will be setting up your married household will be beneficial.
If you think you might need some expert help to prepare for marriage, and making a smooth transition from single to married life, be sure to pull in some outside support from a professional counselor.
Marriage counselors are specialized in helping couples adjust to new lifestyles, and can help provide you with tools to ensure that your married life begins on the right foot.
5. Dedicate some time to your friends also
This is good advice to be followed both before and after your preparation for marriage.
But, especially now as you say goodbye to your single days, plan a weekend getaway or vacation with your closest friends (no spouses or children allowed) so you can enjoy one last moment of friends-only laughter, discussions, and closeness before you become a wife.
It’s nice to make this a habit for after the wedding, as well, as it helps to remind you of your identity (plus its just so much fun!).
You should know how much money each other make, and be open about what you have in your mutual bank accounts. You should discuss if you will combine your financial resources and any other assets (real estate) you may have.
Talk about a pre-nuptial agreement if necessary. This too is a crucial part of the wedding preparation for the bride, which should not be overlooked.
7. Be close with each other’s family
How else to prepare for your wedding?
When you marry, you not only marry your spouse but you marry their family. The best-case scenario?
You each get along well with each other’s parents. It is to everyone’s benefit, especially any future children, that there is a sense of connection to your parents.
If you live far away, as a part of bride preparation before marriage, set up regular Skype sessions so that communication remains open and you can continue cultivating this important relationship.
8. Sex and intimacy
You may already have a sizzling sex life, and that’s great.
But, be aware that your sexual life will change over time. The hot sparks that are a part of your early years together are likely to dissipate, but be replaced by another kind of closeness; that of truly knowing your partner and feeling completely safe with them.
Nevertheless, great sex life is possible, even after the wedding, if, during the marriage preparation, both of you communicate honestly about your likes, your dislikes, what makes you hot and what turns you off.
Your needs will evolve as you grow together, so make sure you stay open to trying out new things to keep this part of your married life-enriching for both of you.
Also, for a happy marriage, you must avoid some common relationship mistakes. Watch the following video to identify and avoid the common relationship mistakes for a healthy married life.
As you go on with your marriage preparation, make sure you take a moment or two to pull back and focus on the big picture of this journey that you are about to embark upon.
The wedding itself is not an endpoint, although sometimes it may seem like it. The wedding is a starting point, that landmark where your life as a couple begins.
With thorough marriage preparation, you can move forward into this next chapter with a lot of zest and positivity, ready to receive all the happiness that marriage can provide.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action.