Do You Know How To Self-Soothe In Conflict Quiz

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10 Questions | Updated: Jul 25, 2025
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Do You Know How to Self-Soothe in Conflict Quiz

Conflict is a normal part of any relationship, but how we handle it can deeply impact emotional safety, trust, and long-term connection. When tensions rise, the ability to self-soothe—regulating your emotions, staying grounded, and responding intentionally—can transform a potential blow-up into a moment of growth. 

The ‘Do You Know How to Self-Soothe in Conflict’ quiz will help you assess your ability to calm yourself during conflict, maintain clarity, and make choices that support healthier communication. Answer honestly to discover how well you manage your internal state when things get tough.

Questions Excerpt

1. When you start feeling overwhelmed during a conflict, what do you typically do?

A. I take a deep breath or ask for a moment to collect myself

B. I try to stay quiet, even if I’m still boiling inside

C. I raise my voice or act impulsively

D. I shut down or walk away without explaining

2. Your partner criticizes you unexpectedly. How do you react?

A. I listen, then try to express how I feel calmly

B. I stay silent and internalize the hurt

C. I immediately become defensive or lash out

D. I feel attacked and leave the room

3. What’s your go-to method to calm yourself after an argument?

A. Deep breathing, journaling, or meditation

B. I distract myself with chores or a screen

C. I vent to others or replay the argument in my head

D. I avoid thinking about it altogether

4. When your emotions start escalating, how aware are you of them?

A. I can usually sense it early and respond accordingly

B. I realize it only after I've reacted

C. I’m often not aware until it’s too late

D. I try not to think about my emotions

5. During conflict, how comfortable are you with taking a break to cool off?

A. Very comfortable – I often initiate it

B. I prefer to keep going even if I’m upset

C. I see it as avoiding the problem

D. I disengage but don’t return to resolve things

6. After conflict, how do you re-engage with the other person?

A. I reflect and approach them with a calmer mindset

B. I wait until they make the first move

C. I avoid them for as long as possible

D. I pretend nothing happened

7. What physical sensations do you notice during high stress?

A. I notice my breath, heart rate, or tension and act to calm down

B. I notice them but don’t do much about it

C. I don’t pay attention to my body during conflict

D. I only notice when I’m completely overwhelmed

8. What belief best describes your view of emotional expression in conflict?

A. Expressing emotion is healthy when done constructively

B. Emotions should be controlled, not shown

C. Emotions are best expressed as they come, no filter

D. Conflict should be avoided altogether

9. How often do you reflect on your role in conflict?

A. Often – I’m open to seeing my part

B. Occasionally, if prompted

C. Rarely – I usually focus on what they did

D. Not at all – I move on quickly

10. How do you treat yourself after a heated argument?

A. With compassion and care – I check in with myself

B. I try to forget it and distract myself

C. I beat myself up or ruminate on what went wrong

D. I feel emotionally numb or disconnected


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