5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Give Him A Second Chance
When you first start a love relationship, you don’t think about all the bad stuff that can happen somewhere along the road. You are on cloud nine and you think that you have found the love of your life. But in most cases, you are wrong because everything that looks good at first is usually not that good. There are guys who will promise you the moon and the stars but they will cheat on you with the first girl they meet.
Raise your standards
And because of those guys, you should raise your standards and never settle for less than you deserve. So, if you think that there is a reason good enough to let him come back to you after a break-up, or an instance of infidelity in marriage, I will have to say that there isn’t. If a guy cheated on you once, he will do it again. As soon as he gets the chance he will jump into someone else’s bed and totally forget about you.
If I still haven’t convinced you, here is a list of the reasons why you should never give a cheater a second chance
1. If he did it once, he will do it again
The thing about exes is that they know all your flaws and they will use them against you. So, if he sees that you forgave him last time he will cheat on you again or will hurt you in any way, thinking that you will forgive him. That’s why you should never give him a second chance. He can’t change overnight and it will take a lot of time before he realizes what he really wants out of his life and the relationship.
2. You don’t have the same outlook on life
Getting back with your ex after a case of infidelity in marriage or relationship can sometimes be nice because you will feel protected and comfortable in his arms again but you will fall at the first hurdle.
You won’t trust him anymore and even if he does something quite small you will latch onto it, blaming him for hurting you. That’s why it is better to stay away from him. It is not good to patch up an old dress and you can imagine what kind of love it would be if it was patched up.
3. You are taking him back just because you are alone
Sometimes people don’t want to be alone so they make the wrong choices. I know so many girls who accepted their exes back because they were sad while they were alone. They were depressed and they thought that it was better being with someone than being alone. But that is not true because a toxic man can ruin your life while you won’t even notice it.
If you already have problems being alone, try to find something that will bring you back on track again but whatever you do, don’t give your ex a second chance, as it will not be a healthy relationship, any more.
4. He is the same piece of shit
The possibility that your ex will change in such a short time is nothing more than a story for kids and if you believe in it, you won’t prevent yourself from hurting. If someone hurt you and he knew that you would get your heart broken, it is time to choose yourself first and let him go.
Building trust in a relationship is easy, but sustaining it is the real deal. If he gets mad and tries to win you back, show him that you are one of those strong women and that you will never let a man control you. After he realizes that you are difficult to handle, he will leave you alone.
5. The past will always haunt you
Even if you give your ex a second chance, the past will always haunt you. Every time he goes out with his friends you will bite your nails, wondering if he is hitting on another girl and if he will cheat on you again. Is that really the kind of life you want to have? Trust me, you deserve someone who will choose you every day or just leave.
Wrapping it up
Your half-baked love is not what you have been waiting for so if that is the only thing he can provide you with, just pass on it. Enough said.
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