1. Was what she did really bad?
A. Yes, it really hurt me, it shook our relationship to the core
B. It was pretty bad and hurtful
C. It actually wasn’t I guess. I mean I was hurt at the time, but I get it too.
2. Do you think you can trust her?
A. She’s very trustworthy. We have a strong basis of trust for our relationship
B. Trust has never really been big in our relationship
C. I think I can. At least mostly, we’ve had some trust in our relationship…and some trust issues
3. Does she respect you?
A. I mean she hasn’t said she doesn’t, but her actions are mixed…
B. My friends say she has no respect for me and she doesn’t seem to care at all about my feelings or desires
C. Yes, she is actually really thoughtful in terms of my feelings and goals.
4. Would you give her a second chance just because you miss her?
A. I do miss her, but that’s not what’s driving me
B. I MISS HER SO MUCH! How do I survive without her?
C. I definitely miss her, and it’s a very big part of it, but I don’t think it’s the primary motivation.
5. Would you give her a second chance out of fear?
A. I don’t think I will ever meet anyone ever again. I’ll be alone forever if I don’t get back together with her
B. No, what do I have to be afraid of
C. I’m a bit nervous about life without her, but I think it would be fine.
6. First of all, would this really be only a SECOND chance?
A. Yeah, we’ve basically been pretty good, I was very surprised when this happened
B. More like 15th
C. Sorta, we’ve had some close calls, but this was definitely the worst
7. Did she apologize?
A. Not really, she kinda skipped the whole, “I’m sorry” part
B. She said I’m sorry, but I’m not sure how much she meant it, she possibly did
C. Yes, she did, and she really seemed to mean it
8. Does she understand why what she did was wrong and how it hurt you?
A. She doesn’t seem to care
B. She really does, she took her time to think about it and she gets it and is very apologetic about hurting me.
C. She kinda gets it, I guess it seems a bit quick to really get it...I’m not sure
9. Does she seem committed to making it work?
A. Yes, she does. She seems excited but understands how hard it will be
B. She says she wants to make it work. I don’t know whether or not she gets what that means
C. I mean she definitely wants to keep going…but I don’t know that she understands there is any work involved.
10. Has she actually DONE something that makes you think she has changed?
A. She’s said it, and some of her actions suggest it’s a maybe
B. She’s said she has, but her actions might say otherwise
C. She has actually, I feel like I can really see her change in how she acts.