As it is said, humans cannot thrive in solitude of mind, body and spirit. Therefore engaging in healthy relationships is an important part of a fulfilled life. Being in relationships is a necessary part of healthy and successful living. Relationships enrich our lives and add to our enjoyment to being alive, but we all know that is no relationship is perfect.
However, humans are made to relate with others in a positive and enhancing way but it is unfortunate that this isn’t always the case. In fact, sometimes, we allow the wrong kind of people to enter our life, and our relationship with them isn’t positive, isn’t healthy, isn’t edifying and mostly, it isn’t fruitful- this is known as negative relationships. These negative relationships cause discomfort, and sometimes even cause harm to your mind, spirit, emotion and body.
However, these are some signs of negative relationships:
1. Negative energy
While you are engaged in a negative relationship, you get so tensed, angry and furious around your partner which builds up negative energy in your body which later leads to total hatred for each other.
Negativity can drain you in all aspects of your life. Negativity drains you mentally, physically, academically, spiritually and emotionally. We’re forced to deal with this negativity, but your negative relationship should be a reprieve from that type of stress.
2. You are not just happy being in the relationship
One of the important signs of a negative relationship is that you are not just happy anymore. We all know it is not possible to be happy in every moment of your relationship, but as a whole, your partner should always make you happier. He or she should make you feel supported, engaged, joyous and capable of doing whatever you want to do. Once you don’t feel happy around your partner, it is a warning sign that you are in a negative relationship.
3. You don’t trust your partner
It is a clear indicator of a negative relationship if you don’t trust your partner anymore. You are in a negative relationship once you start doubting the words and actions of your partner.
If your partner just changes the truth when they don’t like the way a conversation is going,
it is an indicator you are engaged in a relationship with a partner who is not trustworthy. When your partner shifts the blame for his or her actions to someone else or some sort of flimsy situations, it shows you are in a negative relationship with an untrustworthy person.
4. You don’t communicate effectively
Just like communication is the very life of a healthy and positive relationship, the lack of it means that the relationship is negative, unhealthy, toxic and is about to die. You don’t talk to each other face to face even if you are around each other. You prefer to use signs and texts instead of verbal communication.
You will not be able to communicate effectively in a negative relationship. This means you don’t really have anything to say to your partner anymore. When something comes up in life, whether that’s an accomplishment, event or an incident and your partner isn’t the first person you’re sharing it with- this is a clear indicator of a negative relationship.
5. You are not connected to each other
Once you don’t enjoy being in the company of your partner, it is an indicator that you are in a negative or toxic relationship. The moment you are together but not really together, it’s a clear indicator of a negative and incompatible relationship. You can be in the same room, but one of you is reading, or on the computer. You don’t feel connected to another even if you still sleep together in the same bed.
If you find that you’re never actively engaging together, you’re both together, but you are alone doing your own thing, that’s an indication that you are not connected to each other anymore. This shows you are engaged in a negative relationship.
6. You feel insecure
Once you start to feel insecure in a relationship and you don’t know your stance in a relationship, it clearly shows you are in a negative relationship.
You may feel you don’t know where you stand or belong to in a relationship. That is, you feel uncomfortable, uncertain, or anxious about where the relationship is heading.
When you start feeling insecure and uncertain about a relationship, talk to your partner and ask where the relationship between the two of you is heading. If he or she is unable, to give you a convincing answer or reply, please back out of the relationship. Such a relationship is negative, unhealthy and toxic, break up and try as much as possible to avoid such relationship.
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