The whole point of why our hormones make us feel all those crazy things is to fall in love, procreate, and contribute to the continuation of the species.
So, how to make a long-distance relationship work in this case?
Well, there are many ways to do it, since phone sex gained widespread commercial acceptance decades ago. These days with live video and other technical capabilities, there are more creative ways of doing it.
Watch this video to explore ways of having phone sex in long-distance relationships:
Talk about a bright and sunny future
Everyone in a relationship is hoping that someday the couple will be together forever. It doesn’t matter if the relationship started long-distance or ended up that way because of work, school, or other obligations.
To keep a long-distance relationship alive today, there needs to be a tomorrow. Each partner has, in their own way, something to look forward to in their relationship.
It doesn’t have to be the same thing, as long as both partners are anticipating a greener grass on the other side of the pasture.
Communicate a lot
As time goes by, this is a problem even for couples that live together. The dozens of ways to communicate with modern technology makes it inexcusable not to find a few seconds to respond to a message.
When both couples are available to talk, it is necessary to talk about something deeper than trivial things and monosyllabic responses. Talking about the sun, moon, and the meaning of life helps foster emotional intimacy.
Long-distance relationship advice
All kinds of relationships have their ups and downs, long-distance relationships are the same. Make sure you don’t forget the basics of a healthy relationship- trust, communication, and respect.
Before you bother thinking about the challenges of a long-distance relationship, make sure you have the basics covered first.
Tackling the unique situation of LDR’s and ignoring the fundamentals is a fatal mistake. In fact, Long-distance relationships are far from unique.
Over 14 million people are in the same situation. So even if you are unique among peers, you are not uncommon among millions of couples worldwide.
So don’t go around thinking you’re alone and nobody understands your predicament. You are not the first and certainly not the last to try in making a long-distance relationship work.
After you have swept away the negativity of your “unique challenge,” you can go straight to working on your fundamentals.
You need a bit more trust than usual to make a long-distance relationship last. Because you very rarely, or never see your partner, it’s easy to fall into the ‘imagination trap’.
This is when your brain fills the lack of information with unconfounded worries and negativity. For example, when you don’t know what your partner is doing when he is out with friends, you automatically assume some infidelity is happening. This will lead to your relationship ending, long-distance or not.
Communication develops emotional intimacy and also fills in the information to prevent the imagination trap. Thinking about how to make a long-distance relationship work is not enough.
You should also stay away from things that make relationships fail. Another basic fundamental!
Respect is simple. Even if your partner is far away and cannot see you, always act as if they are there.
It’s easy to apply respect to your partner when they are around, but in a long-distance relationship, they won’t be. Forgetting to respect them in their absence is another fatal mistake.
The last word
So how to make a long-distance relationship work?
Do what makes healthy relationships work, but do it harder. There’s no secret sauce, no magic formula, and definitely no in-app purchase.
Just stick to the basics, trust, communicate, and respect. Figure out the physical intimacy barrier. Stick to those rules, and you will be just fine.
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Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.