Flowers, venue, dress, ring, and catering are few of the many marriage preparation details that occupy the mind of a bride. But once the wedding is over and the honeymoon is in the past, what’s next? No longer a bride, are you prepared to be a wife?
Well, a wedding brings one of life’s greatest transitions. So, how does a bride prepare for marriage? In order to prepare for marriage, there are various tips for pre-wedding preparation for the bride.
When two people, often from different cultures and social circles, get married, there will be many differences. When newly in love, you will ignore it when he does not make the bed every morning, leaves his clothes on the ground, plays endless video games, and snores.
Once you get deeper into your marriage, these things and many more can become annoying. Marriage preparation and effective communication will help you nip most of such battles in the bud.
The solution is not to create a battle out of small things. If you battle over the minor stuff, you will not have a listening ear for the major issues. So before you start a battle, ask yourself – Can I live with this? Only pursue battles when the issue affects the love, trust, and respect in the marriage. While preparation before the wedding, take some time to think through how you will handle conflict together.
Talk about expectations
All relationships are built on expectations. We all have expectations and we often assume that our expectations are the same as his. Never assume, for example, that because you came from a home where your father always mowed the lawn, that your husband will do the same.
Expectations must be communicated clearly with love and explained within reason before marriage preparation.
Financial management, household duties, and sex are the main areas of expectation that result inconflicts in a marriage. They must be discussed to ensure harmony and peace. In preparation for the wedding, discuss your expectations with your future husband.
Learn the art of persuasion, not nagging
Men will always joke about their “nagging” wife, but it is far from a joke. It is a real problem that makes the difference between one year of marriage and decades of marriage. Men do not respond to nagging!
While preparing for your wedding, communicate your desires clearly, elicit a response from your partner, and discuss compromise where possible.
Sometimes you may not get what you want at the time that you want it, but remember that communication needs to remain a two-way street in order to keep your marriage happy. As you prepare for the wedding, practice your persuasion skills when you want something from him so that you can begin learning how to avoid becoming a nag.
Facilitate and encourage effective communication
Lack of communication is a sure way to destroy a marriage. Effective communication is an art and takes some work. Before marriage preparation, you will need to develop this art.
Effective communication includes expressing your views without shouting and in a respectful tone and manner,listening to the views of your partner without interruption, and expressing what you understand to be your partner’s position and arriving at a conclusion that will please both parties.
It is one of the crucial things to prepare before a wedding. Start practicing that today to ensure perfection in your marriage.
Keep the romance alive
When the wedding and the honeymoon are over and you are down from the high of it all, the actual life begins. You and your partner will return to your regular daily schedule and it is quite easy to neglect each other and before long the romance dies.
During marriage preparation, decide from now on weekly or daily activities you will be committed to doing to keep the romance alive. Intimacy holds the marriage like a glue. This does not necessarily mean sex. Non-sexual acts of love like cuddling, holding hands, and hugging also helps keep the spark ignited.
Marriage is always 100/100
Most couples assume that marriage is a 50/50 game. However, that is a wrong notion. Marriage means putting your 100% in the institution and this is something every bride and groom must know before marriage preparation.
Marriage is less likely to survive with both partners making it the game of the strongest. A good marriage is about taking turns to be strong in the moments when the other partner feels weak.
Don’t hold secrets
In marriage, any game of secrecy will play havoc in the long run. So, avoid holding back secrets from each other. The situation of hiding things usually arrives when one partner is guilty of doing something wrong.
So, practice honesty in marriage as secrecy is destructive and an enemy of marital intimacy.
In the video below, Dr. Antonio Borrello discusses the effects of keeping secrets in the relationship. He says Sometimes people lie or omit parts of their experiences (secrets) and try to justify the lie by claiming they want to spare the other person some pain. In reality, lies are the liar’s attempt to avoid having an uncomfortable or difficult conversation.
As a bride, this is the most exciting time of your life; but there is much more after the wedding. These preparation tips are a sure way to avoid problems in your marriage.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action.