A good partner has certain key traits that make them a gift to be around. They are usually caring, considerate, open and self-reflective. They want to constantly improve their conduct, so that they can be better partners to you and better overall human beings.
A good place to start introspection is to take in people’s criticism in a positive way and work on things that could make you more social. If there is a trait in you that you think people are right in pointing out, then the acceptance will make you feel at ease. And then you can re-evaluate your behaviors that could be harmful to others.
If you still feel that a particular trait of yours is not hurting anyone and is just looked down upon, then you should talk to your partner to sort out the differences. And you must not become over-critical of yourself. Try to look for a relationship that will have a positive impact on you.
This ‘Rate Yourself as a Partner’ quiz will help you introspect and make sane choices for a sustainable future.
1. Are you a good listener or a good speaker?
A. I enjoy listening more than talking
B. I love talking and sharing good conversation
C. I think I'm somewhere in middle
2. How often do you help your partner with daily chores?
A. As often as possible
B. We do our chores separately
C. I don't help a lot
3. What do you do when your partner falls sick?
A. I take care of them but also try to stay healthy myself
B. I will do everything to the best of my abilities
C. That just adds more chores for me
4. Is violence a part of your relationship?
A. Yes, sometimes
B. Not at all
C. I would never let that happen
5. Do you act bossy in front of your partner?
A. Sometimes
B. I don't think so
C. They more dominating
6. Have you ever been jealous of your partner’s workplace success?
A. Yes, but in a healthy way
B. No, I haven't
C. I actually feel happy when they are rewarded for their hard work
7. Have you ever told your partner to not meet their friends and family?
A. No, I would never do that
B. Yes, but only when I feel low
C. We both do that to each other
8. Have you ever told your partner to leave your house?
A. Yes, but I felt extremely guilty later
B. No, their presence makes my house a home
C. I’ve done this multiple times
9. Have you ever put your partner down in a public gathering or place?
A. No, I have never done that
B. Yes, I have, and I regret it
C. No, but we can get loud sometimes
10. Is your partner happy with you?
A. I don't think so
B. I think they are happy
C. They seem happy
