The start of any relationship can be euphoric!
The endless texting and late-night conversations will take you to cloud nine, making you happier than ever.
Unfortunately, this stage does not last long and as time passes life gets more difficult.
Soon, the romantic talks change into dull and mundane conversations, focusing mainly on what you’re having for dinner and who’ll have to pick up the laundry.
Most newlyweds believe that their relationship will never change
Many relationships fail as even the happy couples unknowingly distance themselves from each other and become emotionally disconnected.
The relationships that do thrive though consist of people who have a different approach to things. These people are more determined to have long, meaningful, and open-minded conversations with each other instead of just discussing the dinner.
Remember two things when you start having these conversations :
Firstly, do not focus on the time, focus on your partner.
Secondly, make yourself vulnerable to your partner as this will help build confidence and trust, bringing you closer.
Following are 10 questions to ask your partner to remain a happy couple
1. What are your biggest three needs and how can I fulfil them?
Think about the most important things that make you happy in your relationship and discuss ways to fulfil those needs with your partner. Doing things that are important to your partner will definitely strengthen your relationship.
2. What are your best and worst childhood experiences?
Knowing about your partner’s childhood experiences can help you understand what has shaped him as an adult. This improved understanding can help you overcome differences, leading to a healthier relationship.
3. What is the best thing about being in a relationship?
The answer to this question is bound to change as your relationship grows, hence, ask this question frequently.
4. Whose relationship do you adore most among your friends and family?
Couples sometimes find it difficult to explain what they want in their relationship. However, recognizing it in another couple will help you understand and work towards what you want.
5. Is there anything I do that annoys you?
Most couples do not answer this question truthfully to avoid conflict. However, it is important that your partner is honest and you are open to criticism to avoid any resentment or anger that may permanently damage your relationship in the future.
6. Is there anything troubling you that I do not know of?
Your partner may not share his troubles to avoid being a burden on you. It is important that you know each other’s problems so that you can provide understanding, support, and empathy.
7. What are your dreams and what has stopped you from achieving them?
The answer to this question may change as time passes. Asking this question will make you aware of your partner’s goals and can help you provide support and advice respectively, further strengthening your relationship.
8. What do you believe to be unforgivable and why?
Often couples do not talk about what would hurt them and their relationship the most. It is important to talk in-depth about what would severely hurt your partner to protect your relationship.
9. Why and when do you feel most loved by me?
It is vital that your partner knows the different qualities you adore in them and what you both need to feel to strengthen your relationship and continue being a happy couple.
10. How can we improve our sex life?
Lack of physical intimacy is one of the top reasons for distance and disconnection in a marriage. Remember to be gentle and optimistic when talking about sex, focusing on what you want and need.
Remember, a happy relationship does not always involve grand romantic gestures, it is the little things that make these couples happy and helps their relationship thrive.