Resentment can cause you to feel angry because of something your partner has done wrong or something you believe your husband has done wrong. This can build up from arguments between you and your husband or even just from a little tic he does that you can't stand.
Without a resolution, this could lead to relationship-threatening problems that may be too difficult to solve. If you wonder if there's resentment, take the following Do I Resent My Husband Quiz to find out.
1. Do you criticize your husband’s flaws?
A. I don’t want to but I do all of the time
B. Sometimes, but I don’t know why
C. On occasion but I apologize afterwards
2. Do you pay attention to your husband?
A. We do things together but aren’t fully engaged in each other
B. We tend to do our own thing and not pay attention to each other
C. When we are together, we are paying attention to each other
3. Do you leave arguments unresolved?
A. They aren’t always solved right away but they are solved in due time
B. We don’t usually solve our arguments
C. Sometimes we solve them, but sometimes we don’t
4. Do you often think about your bad experiences with your husband?
A. That’s all I think about
B. A mix of the good and the bad
C. Time to time, but not often
5. Do you feel heard by your husband?
A. Not all the time but most of the time
B. I don’t feel like he listens to me ever
C. Yes, I feel heard when I talk to him
6. Is your husband excelling while you are not?
A. Yes, I feel he is excelling and I am being left behind
B. No, I don’t feel like either of us is achieving more than the other
C. Sometimes I do but I am proud and happy for him
7. Do they provoke you even when they aren’t trying to?
A. On occasion but not to a great extent
B. Yes, they say normal things but I find them annoying
C. Only when I am in a bad mood
8. Are you usually quiet but not comfortably quiet?
A. Not at all
B. Sometimes
C. Yes
9. Do you show signs of passive-aggressive behavior towards him?
A. Not at all
B. Sometimes
C. Yes
10. Do you flip out often when they try to talk?
A. Not at all
B. Sometimes
C. Yes
11. Has your relationship dissolved into a ‘roommate’ situation?
A. Not at all
B. I guess so
C. Yes
12. Do you tend to make disparaging remarks about something he enjoys?
A. Not at all
B. Sometimes
C. Yes
13. Do you find yourself regretting your relationship?
A. All of the time
B. Never
C. On ocassion
14. Do you still want to be intimate with your husband?
A. If I’m in the mood, yes
B. It’s rare but yes
C. I would rather not
15. Do you intentionally do things to make your husband upset or angry?
A. Only if he makes me angry
B. Yes, I do
C. I don’t try to make him angry intentionally
