1. A close friend of yours is going through a breakup. How do you react?
A. Tell them to stop being a baby and move on. Relationships end all the time
B. Tell them they’ll get through it.
C. Offer them a shoulder to cry on, and tell them they can call me at any time if they need to talk. I feel for them.
2. Do you ever feel overwhelmed spending too much time with other people?
A. Yes. I sometimes feel overstimulated spending too much time engaged with other people. I need time to myself to unpack my emotions.
B. I wouldn’t say I ever feel overwhelmed. I enjoy socializing just as much as any other person.
C. No, this doesn’t describe me at all. I like being around other people, especially if I can be the center of attention.
3. Do people share their problems with you?
A. People know not to approach me with their problems. I’m not the one to sit and listen to people talk about their problems.
B. Yes, I sometimes get overwhelmed with people coming to me with their problems, but they know I am always available for help.
C. Occasionally, a friend might come to me, but I don’t think I’m labeled the “go-to” person when someone has a problem.
4. rnHas anyone ever told you that you are self-centered?
A. All the time. It’s one of the biggest complaints the people in my life have about me.
B. I have occasionally heard this, but it’s not a common complaint.
C. Never! People usually tell me how giving and self-sacrificing I am.
5. How do you feel about conflict?
A. I have difficulty with confrontation, so I tend to avoid conflict. It just overwhelms me.
B. I enjoy it. I love an opportunity to prove my point and correct others.
C. It’s not something I seek out, but I can generally manage it when it arises.
6. Do you have a difficult time saying no?
A. Absolutely not. If something doesn’t work for me, I have no problem standing up for my needs.
B. Yes, I struggle with this all the time. I take on too much because I cannot let people down.
C. I can say no, but I try to let people down gently. There’s no need to be rude about it.
7. One of your friends is a little short with you when you run into them. How are you most likely to respond?
A. I’ll ask them what’s bothering them, but I’ll also be a little annoyed.
B. I’ll be highly offended, and I’d likely fire back something insulting to hurt their feelings.
C. I’ll worry about what is going on and try to be patient with them.
8. How often do you sacrifice your own needs for the people you love?
A. I struggle with this all the time. I get so invested in making other people happy that I don’t care for my own needs.
B. Never. My needs come first, bottom line.
C. On some occasions, I will give up my preferences to make someone I love happy, but there is a healthy balance.
9. When others around you are upset, do you ever feel that you absorb their emotions?
A. Always! If others are unhappy, I start to feel down too.
B. Absolutely not! If others are unhappy, that’s their problem. I am not going to let their attitude affect me.
C. I might pick up on the fact that others are upset, but I wouldn’t let it get to me.
10. If you needed alone time but your partner was hurt, how would you handle the situation?
A. I’d probably feel guilty and end up spending time with them instead.
B. Who cares what they think? My needs come before their feelings! I’d take all the time I need.
C. I would sit down and explain that my intent isn’t to hurt their feelings, but I simply need a few hours of “me time.”