Going Into Business with Your Husband: 5 Things You Should Do
Love and marriage have a fair share of complications. When you bring on board the title of “business partners” on top of husband and wife, matters become complex, furthermore. There are certainly pros and cons to the overall situation, of course. There’s the added time that you get to spend together.
There’s the mutual interest in business and the pursuit of financial success. But there’s also the awkward boundary between married bliss and business buddies. And that’s just in the general sense of joining couples and their careers.
From the woman’s perspective, you have even more than those to consider. If you’re thinking about joining hands with your husband on the frontlines of the corporate world, consider the following tips to keep both your marriage and your business afloat.
1. Make sure that you’re both, you know, excited about it
If you and your hubby are to make this business thing work, it has to be around an idea that lights you both up. If it’s just your service or your product, and he’s not really all that into it, there are three potential things that could happen:
He’s going to resent that the business is about you. Listen, everyone has an ego. But men–as a guy I can speak to this–let theirs come out to play more often than our female counterparts. There is a good chance that your guy will feel insecure about a business idea revolving around you when he feels he should be the breadwinner.
He’s not going to go all in. There will be a part of him that shows up because he loves you, but if his heart isn’t at the core of the business, he won’t give 110% like you will. He’ll be an amazing, supportive husband and help you rise to the top. Good for you! There are men out there that can play in the background and fully support their wife, but it’s not a guarantee.
2. Get in tune with each other’s working styles
Everyone approaches their work differently. There isn’t one approach that is more optimal than another, though. This is an exercise in awareness.
You might be an early bird and get up before the sun makes its way into the sky. By the time most people eat breakfast, you’ve already knocked out half of your checklist. Meanwhile, your husband just cracked his eyes open and is looking for his first cup of joe to get him moving. You’ll probably slow down and check out mentally around 2 or 3, but that’s when he hits his stride. So, although he likes to work late and you prefer the early morning hours, both of you are getting work done.
It’s important to understand how your man works in comparison to yourself because if you don’t, you’re just going to be frustrated by his “laziness”. In reality, he stays up until midnight cranking out work while you’re snoozing and prepping for your next early start.
Your working styles can work together or they can be quite different. The point is to make sure that they work for your business. If someone is carrying all the weight, you don’t want to lay the weight of a rocky business partnership on the top of an otherwise pleasant marriage.
3. Create clear boundaries between work and play
If you have to be as strict as saying, “No business conversation after 5,” then do it! Some married couples that work together can tie their personal lives and their career together seamlessly, but for most, it gets messy pretty quickly.
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If you’re not careful, you’ll carry an annoying conversation about the laundry to work and let it derail your productivity for the day. The reverse could also happen. You could leave work feeling upset about how your husband handled your newest client, then spend the rest of the evening giving him the evil eye.
By creating space between the two worlds that you share, you will be able to enjoy your time at home and execute better when you’re at the office.
4. Do something for you
Since you and that lucky guy of yours get to spend every waking minute together, find a hobby, explore an interest, or start doing something that is just for you. Go to a yoga class a couple of times a week. Start writing that book that you keep talking about. Go on a girls vacation with your old sorority sisters.
By deliberately creating space between yourself and your life with your husband–remember, every waking minute–you’ll feel more refreshed, in love, and ready to take on the world with him when you meet back up. He should find something for himself as well. Having your own passion project makes for more personal happiness and overall fulfilment.
5. Decide when to quit
This section is not intended to be the Debbie Downer portion of this article. I am just suggesting that, before you decide to go all in on a business idea, you and your husband should set some clear guidelines on when to throw in the towel if it comes down to it.
If you’re happily married before you start dreaming about big business ideas, would you consider your marriage to be more important than the dream of having your own business? When you get into the thick of the process of being business partners, you’re going to need to remind yourself of why you started this thing in the first place–to create something amazing with your husband.
If it gets to the point that you hate your husband because your business is tanking, you need to know that it’s time to pull the plug. By deciding on that cut off point beforehand, you’ll be more conscious of it if things were to go south in the business realm.
Love and business can absolutely go together, but it’s so important that you keep your perspective when you go all in. If you make millions of dollars but lose the spark and passion for each other that you once had, will it be worth it? Consider the thoughts above, then make the best decision for you and your husband. Good luck!
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