Maintaining a happy and healthy marriage is already quite hard, and with an aspiring business owner in the mix, the difficulty of maintaining it becomes tenfold. National divorce rates have reached new peaks and while there is only a little research on divorce and entrepreneurs, according to a number of founders, the overwhelming demands, and pressures of setting the foundation of a company take a big toll on the marriage.
Plus, a failed marriage can often easily destroy a well-set and thriving business.
In fact, there have been quite a few very successful entrepreneurs that have experienced failed marriages. The co-founder of Google Sergey Brin separated from his wife. Similarly, founders of Wynn Resorts, Elaine, and Steve Wynn got divorced in 2010 for the second time. Moreover, founder of the famous SpaceX and Tesla Motors, Elon Musk has also been divorced two times since 2010.
What can be done to keep the marriage alive?
In a lot of ways, entrepreneurship and marriage are almost diametrically opposed. While marriage is all about togetherness and security, entrepreneurship is a solo act which also involves taking a considerable amount of risks. Business and marriage often act like rivals with each aiming for a little bit of time of the business owner. While some successful entrepreneurs are divorced, they have realized the importance of having someone with whom they can share their success and money with.
Here is advice from successful entrepreneurs to aspiring business owners for marital happiness
1. Your spouse should be treated like your partner
While you might have chosen someone who promised to stand by you in the ups and the downs of entrepreneurship, communication is crucial at all points. You must be able to communicate with your partner to a fault. With time, people have the tendency to pull back when it comes to discussions regarding work.
For example, you might be worn out from talking about your work all day. Or, your wife may no longer be interested in what goes on in the office. However, lack of communication is the primary step towards divorce.
If the both of you aren’t working together, then you will not be able to understand your partner’s point of view. Consequently, it will become increasingly difficult to become stay true partners.
Founder of Harp Family Institute, Trisha Harp suggests that when struggles are shared, they play a big role in bringing couples closer together. She further states spouses should work together to set short-term and long-term goals, not only for the family but business as well since this helps them to communicate more effectively.
2. Make sure you have enough time for others
To make sure your marriage remains strong, you require three basic things; helps breaks, and dates. Make sure you take out time for a date night every once in a while and relax in the company of each other at least once in a week. Think about why you married the person in the place.
Most importantly, take breaks; go on a holiday with your spouse and unwind without the distractions of work and kids. Remember, there’s no shame in asking others for help, especially from your family.
Also watch: How to Find Happiness in Your Marriage
3. Your company should not be run from the house
Either rent an office space or make use of a co-working space, but never treat your house as your office. Melody, an experienced entrepreneur who has successfully built two box subscription businesses, talks about how she first started out in her living room.
In the beginning, all seemed fine. However, as soon as business took off, she was constantly packing, labeling, and sending out numerous boxes. As a result, all the items were spread out all over the dining table, and her family had no place to sit and enjoy their meal. Consequently, there was huge friction. Plus, no one realized that she needed the time to work; her kids would often ask for help with homework while she had orders that she needed to complete.
Melody McCloskey, then, with the help of a small business loan, rented an office space nearby which she claims is the best business decision. She states that not only did it help to save her marriage, but it also helped her save space and time to come up with such a sustainable business plan that brought in a sufficient amount of money.
Wrapping it up
For an aspiring business owner, marriage can be tough to juggle. However, it’s important to learn something from those who’ve gone through similar experiences. So, see what the above-mentioned list of ‘Entrepreneurs advice to aspiring business owners’ can help you out with.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action.