Applying Workplace Appreciation to Save Your Marriage
How long can you continue working at a job with unflinching dedication, sincerity and commitment and without adequate appreciation or timely rewards? Without these things, most people suffer burnouts, feel disinterested, lack motivation and gradually or sporadically start looking elsewhere for fulfillment. Just as you need a sense of accomplishment and financial reward in the workplace, your relationship also requires appreciation and rewards.
It’s not that your marriage should be treated as a job, but it does pay to consider how some of the management lessons we learn at work can be applied to improving our marriage. Here are five simple things that will show your spouse you appreciate him or her. They do not need to be said every day but certainly several times a month.
1. I love you!
A simple expression of love goes a long way. Most people, especially those who have been married for a while, lose the chivalry they once had. Expressing love should never be an occasional thing. You should not take your partner for granted or think that just because you are married, you do not need to express love through words anymore.
2. I enjoy being with you!
Remember your first date or the first few times you spent long hours chatting, dining, and having fun? Remember how many times you said that you enjoyed his or her company? You need to express that joy of just being together, regardless of how many years you have been married.
3. Your feelings, emotions and opinions are important to me!
Sometimes it’s easier to just make assumptions and move forward without checking in to see how the other person feels. This is especially true when you are in a long-term marriage and have fallen into habits. However, people change all the time, and it’s important to know that your opinions, views, and emotions matter to your spouse.
4. You look great!
Spouses often see themselves as they perceive their partners see them. Telling your spouse that they look great will not only deepen your love and make your spouse happy, but it will also do a world of good to their self-esteem.
5. I’m so glad I married you!
Appreciating a good relationship is incredibly meaningful. Remind yourself and your spouse that despite the challenges in life, your relationship has made both your lives enriched and fulfilled.
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Dr. David McFadden is a co-owner and Clinical Director at Village Counseling Center. He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor. Dr. McFadden has been helping adolescents and adults for over 30 years, specializing in marital affairs.
