If you take everything seriously and stay worried all the time, then you will have problems between you and your spouse. If your spouse is angry, try not to be mad at them; stay calm and quiet and laugh it off later on.
6. Keep a clear perspective
Real problems are someone dying or having cancer; every other thing is just an obstacle you will have to overcome.
Try not to sweat over the small things; before you raise your voice and scream at your husband think to yourself, will this matter in 10 years from now?
If it does not, then there is no point in arguing and fighting over it.
7. Make time for serious conversations
When people lose intimacy, which inevitably happens, when all your conversations are about chores and bills, it might be hard to get it back. But it’s not impossible.
A study revealed that disclosure and sharing your inner thoughts and deliberations brings even strangers together. Imagine what it can do to your marriage!
Set aside one night in the next week to spend with your husband talking and – getting to know each other again. It will bring back memories of the excitement you’ve felt when you were first discovering who he is as a person.
Make it fun, and ask questions about his dreams, about what he would be taking with him to a desert island, about his perfect day.
Also watch: How to have a deep conversation
8. Have a plan B
Think about alternative solutions and suggestions. If things get tense, you may want to talk to your husband and ask him if he wants to brainstorm some alternatives.
When things get tough, and you have no idea what to do, then sit down, put some thought together and come up with a plan and solution towards the real issue.
9. Walk it off
If you have a serious emotional meltdown, then try to walk it off; take your kids to the park or go for a walk. This will help in soothing you down and avoid saying something you do not mean.
In marriage, you are bound to have ups and downs, there will be times that you will feel distant from your partner, and then there will be times that you will want to walk away.
In times like this, you must be aware of ways to reconnect with your husband.
Avoid building up of resentments, couples who hold on to grudges and resentments may find themselves fighting at the smallest things.
The secret to having a long and lasting marriage is a good sense of humor and short-term memory.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action.