8 Surprising Reasons Why Women Stray from Their Happy Marriages

It doesn’t take a degree in rocket science to recognize that happy marriages don’t just abruptly end.

In reality, marriages tend to unravel after a prolonged period of malaise and even denial. Generally, couples attempt to stick it out by placing additional emphasis on counseling and communication.

That said, most couples can point to a moment or moments when things really reached the point of no return.

But here’s the vexing thing. Sometimes partners step away from happy marriages or healthy relationships. These departures leave the other partner wondering, “What just happened?” In this piece, we look at some of the reasons women leave happy marriages. Do any of these apply to you?

Read on to know why women stray and when she stops caring in a relationship.

1. Perceived lack of trust

There are times in which partners have their trust challenged by miscommunication and seemingly small disagreements. Surprisingly, the vitality of an otherwise happy marriage can hinge on a moment.

A woman pulling away emotionally is a red flag in a happy marriage.

For good or bad, otherwise healthy and happy marriages may be discarded because of a hunch.

2. Mental illness

All of us have struggled with the “blues.” When a woman pulls away, personality disorders, depression and the like can be the catalyst behind her sudden departure from the relationship.

Often, depression is a direct result of a loss and is acute in nature. However, there are times in which our mental health issues reach far beyond depression.

Diagnosable mental illness can not only derail the best intentions of the individual but can sully the entire trajectory of the existing relationship, even in healthy and happy marriages.

Women – and men for that matter – can leave a marriage when mental illness disrupts healthy, positive thinking.

3. Competing visions

One of the most unhelpful images yoked to the westernized ideal of marriage is this idea that the “two become one.”

The healthiest and happy marriages allow ample space for both partners to fully explore and embrace their visions for vocation, life, spirituality, and the like. However, there are times in which partners discern that their visions are competing visions. In as much, drifting apart occurs in the relationship.

If a woman or her partner feel that their vision for the future is not compatible with the overall trajectory of the marriage, the marriage may come to an end.

4. Children

Not every married couple chooses to have children as part of their familial “equation.”

This childless dynamic is okay so long as all parties are on board with this approach. However, women often feel the tug of parenthood when their significant others do not. When there is this sort of incongruence in the relationship, a marital parting may be on the horizon.

A house divided against itself cannot stand. In the same way, a disagreement on the “kid or no kid” issue can be a deal-breaker.

5. Open relationship

Some couples create an agreement that allows for “open intimacy.”

While a great deal of trust is needed among partners who allow for expressions of sexuality beyond the relationship, the relationship will possibly suffer for it.

Here’s the thing, trust declines when our attention is focused on more than one intimate partnership. Women in otherwise strong relationships or happy marriages may leave the relationship if they feel that their intimate partner is more attune to the extramarital affair than the marital bond.

6. Boredom

As the human condition evolves, our discretionary time expands. Because technology and medicine often give us more time to devote to leisurely pursuits, we may choose to travel or engage in a variety of hobbies.

But even as we pursue leisurely activities to keep things interesting, we may become quite bored with our existing relationship. Some women, as well as men, may feel like that their partner is not interesting or active enough to compel a long-term commitment.

We may never fight with our partner, but we may become very bored with them. Hence, some women move on with life without their current significant other.

7. Sexual orientation

Some couples are well into their married life when one of the partners realizes that they are attracted to members of the same sex. A partner may truly love their spouse while not being intimately attracted to the partner.

When a woman (or man) acknowledges sexual attraction to a person of the same gender, it may mean the end of the current relationship.

Although the separation and potential divorce may be quite difficult, it may also be necessary.

We all seek authenticity if we are healthy. In the absence of this authenticity, we can spiral into self-doubt and depression. Being true to orientation can mean a relationship status change is appropriate.

8. Protection

While the title implies all sorts of options, the intent is singular. When she stops trying it is a sure-fire predictive sign that the woman is backing off in a relationship.

There are times that women (and men) step away from a good relationship because they see “bad moons” on the horizon. A health crisis, a terminal illness, and the like are all reasons a partner may walk away from a “good thing” or be driven to pulling away from a relationship because they want to protect their partners.

In our attempt to protect others from the issues we have encountered, we may do more harm than good.

What to do when she pulls away?

When she pulls away, give her space and she may come back.

Sometimes, partners walk away from what should be a good thing. It’s vexing, it’s painful, but it happens. When it happens, it is vital for the partner on the receiving end of the bad news to be open to space while continuing to remain hopeful that reunion is possible.

Strong communication is a must for happy marriages. And, ultimately, acceptance of whatever outcome is in the cards for the relationship.

So, what to do when she becomes distant?

Instead of looking for a quick fix on how to back off in a relationship, it is important to first give her space, make sure there isn’t something that you’ve done to upset her that you’re aware of, and ask if she’d be willing to go to counseling.

We cannot make choices for our intimate partners if they are decidedly keen on pulling back in a relationship. We can, however, take good care of ourselves.