With the New Year right around the corner, now is the time when everybody starts thinking about love.
Everyone has different needs in their romantic life. To ensure your relationship is getting the nourishment it needs to grow, you’re going to need to do a big relationship check-up. It’s important to be open with your partner about what you can do to make your relationship happier and healthier in the New Year.
Being proactive means you have to take action to accomplish your goals. Happy relationships don’t create themselves. Whether you’ve just met the love of your life or you’re looking to perfect the relationship you already have, there are always tips and tricks to make it better.
Here are 10 ways to be proactive about creating your perfect relationship in the New Year.
1. Make your relationship your top priority
One way to be proactive about creating your perfect relationship is to let your partner know that they are your priority. That means paying more attention to them than you do to your phone! It means leaving work at the front door.
When something is important to you, you do everything you can to make sure it lasts. Similarly in relationships, when your partner is a priority, you want to make sure you nurture that relationship. You can make your partner know they’re important in this way by not only what you do, but by how you communicate. You talk civilly with them, you take them into consideration before you make decisions, and you don’t attack their character.
Showing your partner that your relationship is a priority for you helps foster trust and lets them know that they can depend on you.
2. Date night
Want to take one step closer to creating your perfect relationship? Start scheduling a date night. One night a week, take your partner out (or in!) and treat them the way you would have if you were still dating. Woo them, charm them, have dinner and drinks, explore a new hobby. Whatever you plan, just make sure the sole purpose of your night together is to re-explore your relationship.
Date night is great for relationships for a number of reasons. It opens the lines of communication, it builds lust and sexual tension, and it’s a fun novelty that brings excitement back into the relationship, builds intimacy, and lowers stress.
3. Be romantic
Romance, for women especially, is one way that couples show their love for one another and improve their relationship in the New Year. Showing random acts of romance such as thoughtful flowers, leaving notes for your partner, or giving them surprise gifts is a sweet way of letting your partner know that you are thinking about them.
4. Do a relationship check-in
A relationship or “marriage check-in” is when both couples get together once a week to discuss how things are going. This is a great habit to pick up in the New Year since it opens communication for both partners to speak honestly about what they love and what they aren’t so crazy about in the relationship. Be sure to approach one another respectfully.
Tell your mate what you love and appreciate about them. Allow them to do the same. Then ask, “Is there anything I can do to be a better partner for you?” and let them reciprocate. This allows both partners to bring up any potential issues without the other feeling like they are being attacked.
5. Schedule playtime
Aside from being your lover and your secret keeper, your partner is supposed to be your best friend and you’re supposed to have fun with your best friend. When was the last time you did something that made you happy with your mate? It’s just as important to schedule playtime as it is to schedule romance.
Couples who laugh together report happier relationships than those who don’t. Whatever makes you happy, take part in it together.
6. Give what you expect to get
Have you ever heard the adage “Treat others as you would like to be treated?” Well, one way you can go about creating your perfect relationship this New Year is to follow the saying and put out good vibes. Treat your partner with understanding, respect, love, admiration, and honesty and you’ll find that they’re responding in kind.
7. Be vocal about what you want
One way to change your relationship for the better this year is to be vocal about your wants and needs. Stop playing games. Your partner isn’t a mind-reader. If you want more sex, ask for it. If you want to start a family, buy a puppy, change careers, or just need a little more of your mate’s time and attention, don’t sit back and hope that they figure it out for themselves. Say what you mean and mean what you say.
8. Learn to forgive
One way you can be proactive about creating your perfect relationship is to stop expecting perfection from your partner. Forgiveness is an essential quality in a long-lasting relationship. Healthy aspects of forgiveness to practice are to never go to bed angry, learn to let go, and don’t throw your partner’s mistakes in their face once you have forgiven them.
9. Have quality sex
Sex is a vital role in the health of a relationship. Not only does this fantastic pastime feel great, but it brings a couple closer together. Holding hands, kissing, hugging, and snuggling together is also a huge part of relationship intimacy that makes a couple’s love stronger and heightens feelings of trust. When it comes to sex, be sure you’re choosing quality over quantity. Communicate with your partner about when you need to climax or what makes sex more meaningful, fun, or comfortable for you.
10. Talk about real things
Sometimes it’s fun to just sit back and relax with your partner, talking about the silly things. But, when was the last time you had a real conversation together? When the opportunity presents itself, talk about the deeper things in life. Discuss your goals, dreams, your faith, or reminisce about the best times in your relationships. Ask each other get-to-know-you type questions and see what there still is to learn about your mate.
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