Your life revolved around yourself and your spouse, there is a change of events with the coming of a child as a fruit of your union. Fathers or mothers initially find it a challenging yet fun time for the relationship. The fathers feel abandoned now that most focus and energy goes to the child while mothers are stressed because of added responsibility and body changes as a result of childbirth. Have you heard of postpartum depression?
Watching your child reach their milestones as they entirely depend on you is fulfilling. New parents need to have an agreement on the most appropriate time to conceive and deliver a baby. Although it takes time for some couples, in most cases, you are in control on when to deliver so that you give your child all your attention. Great ways to enjoy passionate time together as new parents include-
1. Collective responsibility in handling the baby
The baby is your product, share responsibilities in handling the baby. Change diapers; keep your wife company as she breastfeeds the baby at night. If you have a colic baby then take turns to soothe her or him to sleep. In fact, the husband can now take the role to allow the mother to have a rest. Do not just sit with your phone when there are dishes in the sink; the baby needs attention yet the mother is busy doing laundry. The fact that you are all involved from the early stages of the baby growth, your wife feels appreciated and loved.
2. Go out and have fun
Which rule dictates that new parents have no right to have fun? You need time together away from the child. Get a babysitter or a relative to look after the baby as you go for a weekend getaway away from town to rekindle your love for one another. When it’s safe, get a baby stroller and take a walk with your child in company with your spouse. It kills the boredom and monotony of child care within the walls of your house.
3. Baby sit as your wife meet friends and get a makeover
Mothers tend to forget they also need to take care of themselves. Sponsor your wife a makeover as you stay behind to babysit or take care of the child. That break rejuvenates her to prevent postpartum depression. The emotional fulfillment because of the thought of a caring partner strengthens your love despite the new family patterns.
4. Join online and physical support groups for strength
This new responsibility comes with its own share of challenges. You may not have an idea on how to deal with emerging issues. Make good use of social media platforms and new parents support groups to give you clues on how other new parents manage in situations. It is therapeutic to know that you are not alone in the journey of parenting.
5. Accept your new role and handle it with passion
Acceptance should be the first step to have a fruitful and happy relationship as a new parent. Acknowledge that things will no longer be the same but you have the power to make it enjoyable despite the changes. You will no longer have the same sleeping patterns, you are not at liberty to go out as often as you wish, and in all your plans your child is a priority. Obviously, it is choking but the fact that you have to take care of a human being gives you the motivation to soldier on. The thought of an innocent child who entirely depends on you gives you the will to prove your worth through a disciplined product. Share your fears and doubts with older parents your mom, dad and in laws to give you direction whenever possible.
6. Take time off work to concentrate on parenting
Gauge your financial ability, if it can cater for all your needs with minimal complaints then it is a noble idea for the mother to take the time to concentrate on parenting. Handling a newborn with work responsibilities might be a lot of work for some new parents. The sense of guilt and fear of uncertainty lowers your production levels. If you have an understanding employer then organize for a flexible work schedule even if it means a pay cut so as not to compromise on parenting.
New parents require support from friends and family to go through the initial phase of parenting. Both partners need the constant backing off each other to ensure no one is overwhelmed by the responsibilities of a new entrant in the family.