When you fall in love, there are signs that can reveal that you love him enough to marry him. Yes, you might have been sure that you wanted to spend the rest of your life as the Mrs as soon as you exchanged the first “Hello”. Nonetheless, as there are signs that you love him enough to marry him, the medial has the other side as well. When you’re infatuated with a guy, you might lose your objectivity. So, if you don’t recognize the following signals in your relationship, take a step back and let things evolve on their own.
Here are 5 signs that indicate you love him-
1. You can (and often do) imagine the future with him
When we fall for someone, we always imagine ourselves as the couple from the fairy-tale, forever together. Yes, everyone does that, all the time. This is due to our hormones and the chemistry of falling in love working its wonders. Yet, not every relationship will (and should) develop into a marriage.
So, what’s the difference?
When you fall in love with a man who you might want to consider as your future husband, you can imagine yourself with him forever.
But you can imagine the reality of it. You can imagine the arguments, the stress, the crises, and, most importantly, you can imagine how the two of you resolve all of this. And it doesn’t sound like a fairy-tale, rather as a healthy reality.
2. You can support your partner even when you disagree
When you’re madly in love, you want to be one with your partner. You want the two of you to merge into one divine being, and to remain that way forever. But, it’s not how it works, and it also shouldn’t. If you feel like this, it is a sign that you love him, but not a sign that you should marry him.
As Harriet Lerner advises, you should approach the matter of marriage with a clear head, and not from the perspective of being swept by the surge of hormones.
A healthy relationship (and potentially a great marriage) is when you disagree, but you have the ability and the empathy to support your partner in their viewpoint. Not only to defend his stance in front of the others but also to be able to understand their perspective even when it’s directly opposing yours.
3. You are able to forgive and forget
Yes, you might think your new partner is faultless and perfect in every aspect at first. It’s usually that period of a relationship that makes you want to seize him and never let anyone else have him. But he is not, as you aren’t and no one is, for that matter. He will err, he might hurt you, he will do things you disagree with.
In a relationship that should end in a marriage, you should be able to forgive. And to forget. The transgressions will happen.
But, when you truly love someone enough to give the rest of your life to them, you should be guided by your empathy and not by your own ego.
You should be able to understand and to let off.
4. You can make room for each other’s individuality
As we already said, being in love makes us want to be one with that person. But, in every relationship, the time comes when you just can’t move as a single entity anymore, you need to have your own space and pursue your own dreams. You are two adults, two separate people, who have chosen to go ahead through life together.
This notion has the ability to trigger separation anxiety in some people. But, if you feel this way, it is a certain sign that you might not really love him (although it might feel as if you were deeply in love), not in a healthy way at least. A healthy relationship with a future happens only when both partners can thrive as individuals.
5. Your reactions are your compass
We talked a lot about how you should have understanding for your future husband if so happens. But there is one final sign that you should consider before deciding to marry someone. It’ how you feel when they do something. Is there some nagging feeling that somewhere along the line, you might not be able to tolerate and to love them?
Ideally, you should feel in perfect sync with your future husband. But some turbulences are also fine. The main thing is – are you expecting him to change? He won’t, and it’s not fair for you to expect it. You have to accept him as he is right now and observe how you react to his actions. If you feel comfortable with him and you love him, venture on!