Narcissists are those who have excessive interest in themselves. They are so much in love with their personalities that they tend to ignore the people around them. A narcissist is buried his true self-expression in response to early injuries and switched it with a highly industrialised, compensatory false self.
Another thing about narcissists is that they are appealing; they are charming, compelling, beautiful and don’t hold back on good compliments. So if any of these signs that you’re dating a narcissist do pop up, please proceed with extreme caution:
1. They love being the exception to the rule
Narcissists enjoy being the ones excluded from a general rule. If you have a laid down rule or instruction, they look for an excuse to break the laid down rules and instructions. If you are in a relationship with someone that feels superior, and he believes that he is above the law, flee from them.
2. They don’t care about how you feel
Narcissists don’t care whether you feel happy or sad. They are concerned with what they feel. They are self-concerned. They exist purely to serve their own grandiose self-image; it’s difficult for them to understand that feelings exist, or to care if any have been hurt.
3. They act like a boss
They give directives and monitor whatever you do. They always feel like they are in control of you and nothing can be done or said to change what they intend to do. Even if they are subordinates, you cannot dominate or give them orders.
4. They are too confident
One significant feature that you are in love with a narcissist is that they tend to be too confident about matters. They take a lot of risks and they are fearless which gets them dates.
5. They are charming
It is a known fact that narcissist are extremely handsome or beautiful. They are charming and lovely which makes people want to date them in the first place.
6. They challenge you perpetually
Being in love with a narcissist is basically a series of endless conversations where you express an opinion and they immediately jump on it. They think they are superior and they show a way of dismantling your thoughts and wishes.
7. They lose interest easily
Narcissists show how willing and able they are to go to the extreme to get you to be theirs. Once they find out you are in love with them, they tend to get bored and lose interest in the relationship.
8. Lack of reliability
Another way to identify a narcissist is to measure her or his actions against her words. You can never rely on narcissists, they tend to disappoint your planned out actions. They don’t keep to their words.
9. They feel entitled to preferential treatment
Narcissists often expect preferential treatment from others. They always like to fly on business class even though they are not the one paying. They don’t like being treated equally; they always want to be above others.
10. They tend to mistake your Kindness for Weakness
Whenever you are pleading to a narcissist, the kinder you get, the meaner they become. They keep on talking and bragging about how they are ready and willing to cut you out of their lives without remorse.
11. They are jealous of others
Narcissists also tend to be very jealous partners because, they think that, you’re a mere extension and a source of narcissistic supply, which they need to keep close and under their control.
12. They tend to cheat
Since they act like the boss over you, they feel you have nowhere else to run to thereby, it gives them free pass to cheat on you. They might not even be remorseful after when they have cheated on you.
13. They don’t admit they are wrong
There is always a right way and a wrong way to do things. Naturally, narcissists assume that what they are doing is right while your way of doing things is wrong. The narcissist will publicly lambaste you or anyone who dares do something not precisely to his or her liking.
14. The narcissist can do anything to get people’s “Likes”
A narcissist is the one who will constantly update their instagram and facebook timeline. They adore their selves and will love if others adore them too. They tend to seek out to gain instagram likes and comments.
15. Conversations are often one sided
A narcissist will always be uninterested in what you have to say. They feel their thoughts and expression must prevail over yours so they discard whatever you try to say or prove.
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