We are able to hide behind many personalities that we may not like for others to see. In the midst of all the hiding, we find it hard to see the real character of another person. Undoubtedly, no one can be selfless, but extreme self-absorption may harm a relationship. He will likely talk about their success and ask you to change things about yourself. They will put you down whenever they get insecure. It is “me” over “we” for him.
Take this 'Is my boyfriend selfish’ quiz to be able to see through your boyfriend and know if he is selfish.
1. Has he ever asked for nudes?
A. Yes, persistently
B. No, he hasn’t
C. Yes, once, but I refused
D. Sometimes, even after I refused
2. How does he express himself in bed?
A. He skips the foreplay
B. He has specific oral needs in bed
C. He waits for my orgasm
D. He is fun but lacks respect for my orgasm
3. How do you feel when you have sex with them?
A. I wish they were a little tender
B. I feel that he feels victorious everytime we have sex
C. I feel euphoric and refreshed
D. Somewhere in the middle
4. Do you spend time after sex?
A. Yes, we do
B. Sometimes, if he has no prior engagements
C. He does not even cuddle
D. Only if I ask
5. Does he talk about his crushes?
A. Yes, he does, but so do I
B. Not really, he talks about his exes though
C. He is quite secretive
D. Yes, but I feel uncomfortable
6. Do you like watching movies or series together?
A. Movies, sometimes, but no series yet
B. Sometimes, but it is usually followed by sex
C. No, not yet
D. Yes, it is not always about sex
7. How are your dates usually like?
A. Eat, sex, leave, repeat
B. Dinner, chat, sex, cuddle and the morning after
C. He follows a pattern but stays if I ask
D. He is only fun in bed
8. Has he asked you to go down on him?
A. Yes, very specifically
B. No, they haven’t asked
C. No, but they talk about it
D. Yes, they don’t like it otherwise
9. Do you enjoy talking to him?
A. Yes, love it
B. We don’t talk
C. Yes, he is a sweet talker
D. Sometimes, not always
10. Do you see him in your future?
A. Frankly, I don’t
B. Yes, sometimes
C. He seems so caught up
D. Not really
11. Does your boyfriend regularly engage in acts of kindness or selfless gestures towards you?
A. Rarely, if ever
B. Occasionally, but not consistently
C. Yes, he makes an effort to show care and consideration
D. Absolutely, he frequently goes out of his way to make me happy
12. How does your boyfriend handle your achievements or successes?
A. He shows minimal interest and doesn't offer much support
B. He may acknowledge them but doesn't celebrate them with enthusiasm
C. He genuinely congratulates and supports me in my accomplishments
D. He actively celebrates and takes pride in my achievements
13. How does your boyfriend handle financial matters in the relationship?
A. He often expects me to cover expenses without contributing equally
B. He tends to prioritize his own financial goals and needs over ours
C. We have open discussions and make joint decisions regarding finances
D. He is generous and willing to share financial responsibilities equally
14. How does your boyfriend handle important decisions that impact both of you?
A. He makes decisions without consulting me or considering my input
B. He tends to prioritize his own desires and choices over mine
C. We discuss and make joint decisions based on mutual agreement
D. He actively involves me in the decision-making process and values my input
15. How does your boyfriend respond when you express your feelings or concerns?
A. He dismisses or minimizes them
B. He listens but doesn't take action
C. He gets uncomfortable
D. He actively listens and tries to find solutions
