Do I Deserve Love Quiz

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20 Questions | Total Attempts: 7202 | Updated: Apr 22, 2025
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Do I Deserve Love Quiz

Everyone wants to feel loved... but sometimes, something inside whispers, "Do I really deserve it?"

Maybe it is past heartbreak, a quiet sense of unworthiness, or a fear that love is for everyone else—but not for you. It is okay to feel unsure; many people do.

This "Do I deserve love?" quiz is not about right or wrong—it is a gentle space to explore where you stand with love, self-worth, and everything in between. So take a breath, be kind to yourself, and begin when you are ready.

Questions Excerpt

1. How do you react when someone compliments you?

A. I feel uncomfortable and think they're just being polite

B. I appreciate it but have a hard time believing it

C. I say thank you, but deep down, I second-guess it

D. I rarely receive compliments

2. What does love feel like to you?

A. Safe, mutual, and steady. I know it when I feel it

B. Exciting but fragile. I worry it could disappear anytime

C. Unpredictable and scary. I am always bracing for it to hurt

D. Distant. I am not sure I have ever really felt it deeply

3. When someone compliments your personality, how do you respond internally?

A. I feel genuinely happy and seen. It means a lot

B. I appreciate it, but I question if they are just being polite

C. I immediately think of all the ways they are wrong

D. I want to believe it, but I feel like they do not really know me

4. What do you believe about your worth in a relationship?

A. I bring a lot of value and love into relationships

B. I think I am worthy, but I often feel I have to prove it

C. I do not really believe I am enough—something always feels missing

D. People always end up leaving, so maybe I am just not meant for love

5. How do you feel when someone really sees and accepts you?

A. Grateful. It feels good to be understood and loved as I am

B. It is comforting, though I sometimes worry they will change their mind

C. It is overwhelming—I do not know if I deserve that kind of love

D. I do not think anyone has truly seen me or accepted me completely

6. What is your first thought when someone pulls away from you emotionally?

A. They might be going through something. I try not to take it personally

B. I wonder if I did something wrong or upset them somehow

C. I assume it is my fault. I start analyzing everything I said or did

D. This always happens. People get close, then they leave

7. How do you handle compliments or recognition at work or in other areas of your life?

A. I immediately think they must be mistaken or exaggerating

B. I feel awkward, but say thank you

C. I accept and appreciate the recognition

D. I rarely receive compliments or recognition

8. Are you afraid of being vulnerable with others?

A. Yes, I fear being judged or rejected

B. Sometimes, it depends on the person

C. No, I am comfortable being vulnerable

D. I have learned to keep things to myself—it feels safer that way

9. How do you handle rejection or a breakup?

A. I take it personally and feel devastated

B. It's difficult, but I try to move on

C. I try to learn from it, but the pain stays with me

D. I rarely put myself in situations where rejection could happen

10. Do you prioritize your own needs and well-being?

A. No, I often put others first and neglect my needs

B. Sometimes, but it's challenging to prioritize myself

C. Yes, I make self-care a priority

D. It feels unnatural or selfish to focus on myself

11. Which of these is a fear you struggle with?

A. That no one will find me attractive or want to date me

B. That I'm not a good person

C. That I don’t deserve true love

D. That something is deeply wrong with me, and no one could ever truly love me

12. Do you feel like you come with too much baggage, and no one will want to take that on?

A. Not really

B. Many times, I do

C. Sometimes I feel that way, but I push it aside

D. Yes, definitely

13. Has anyone ever told you that you are worthless, unattractive, or that no one will ever be able to love you?

A. Yes, a few times

B. Not that I can recall

C. Yes, but only once or twice, and it stuck with me

D. Frequently

14. Do you envision a future of marriage/family?

A. Only in my dreams, but I don’t think it will actually happen

B. I gave up on that dream a long time ago, but it would be nice

C. I do hope to find that someday

D. It feels like something meant for other people, not me

15. Have you ever hurt someone you loved?

A. No, not intentionally

B. Yes, and I still carry guilt from those moments

C. I am not sure

D. Sometimes, I wonder if I have ever let myself fully love someone.

16. Which of these do you feel about yourself?

A. “Who would want to be with someone like me?”

B. “I am not a good person and don’t deserve a nice person who will treat me well.”

C. “No one will want to be with me once they get to truly know me.”

D. “No one would want to deal with someone flawed or difficult to read.”

17. Do you think you are attractive?

A. No

B. Yes

C. Rarely

D. Some days I do, but most days I feel invisible or not good enough

18. Have you ever felt genuine unconditional love from a friend, family member, or other adult in your life?

A. Rarely

B. I have, but I always question whether they truly meant it

C. No, I have not

D. I don’t remember

19. How would you describe your childhood?

A. It was okay, but I often didn’t get any positive attention from people in my life

B. It was mostly fine, and I do not think it shaped how I feel today

C. I was in trouble a lot or was criticized a lot by my parents

D. There were some deeply painful or frightening moments I still think about

20. Have you ever had a serious relationship?

A. Only one, but it has been a while

B. Yes, a couple of them

C. Yes, but I often ended up feeling taken for granted or not truly seen

D. No


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