Casual dating can be synonymous with casual fun, and although people often think of it as the same with “casual sex”, things don’t escalate that fast in the first moments that you meet each other.
Yes, it can come to that eventually, but dating someone, even if it’s casual and nothing serious, is similar to a ritual, and we all know that every ritual has its rules. The key to any relationship, either casual or stable, is to know how to talk to your partner and to seduce him with your native cleverness of understanding and conversing.
Most of the time that we spend with our casual dating partners are talking.
Sometimes it might happen that we end up stuck in a dubious topic, or launch a sensitive subject during the small talks that we have with our partners, and are embarrassed that we cannot advance the conversation any further; this doesn’t mean that it has to be the end of the nice chat that you were previously engaged in and enjoying.
We’ve compiled the best conversational tips for casual dating talks, like listening, encouraging, and other useful advices that you can easily build practical skills on, and how and when to best apply them for maximum efficiency.
Encourage your partner
If you get stuck in a topic and run out of ideas, try encouraging the other person to talk more about him or her.
People love talking about themselves, and that’s the subject they are best familiar with.
Start asking questions, and remember, always be genuinely interested in your partners and what they have to say.
To be a good conversationalist means to be a good listener, and this doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to move outward, towards the outskirts of the conversation and isolate yourself from the other; you still need to actively engage in the conversation at hand.
Become genuinely interested with what your partner has to say and ascertain what the other speaker is saying by being attentive during the conversation, nodding or smiling, and providing good comments on the message your partner tries to convey to you.
Some people choose casual dating sometimes just to have someone that listens to them.
Get creative with what you have
Always have interesting topics at hand for conversation starters.
Try to stay informed with the news, entertainment, or latest trends, so you always have something neat to start with and add to your conversation.
Learn the rhythm
It’s just like music, and it’s imperative that you need to know when to pause and wait in the talk.
If you start monopolizing the conversation and get too carried away, then the talk will begin to look more like an interrogation, rather than a friendly chat, and your opposing partner will get annoyed and eventually abandon it. This goes vice-versa.
Monopolize the chat only when someone puts you in that position by showing a keen interest in you.
Use your body language
It is well known that 55% of our communication is expressed nonverbally, through nonverbal cues, facial expressions, or posture changes.
Most of the information we try to convey comes unconsciously and is accompanied by speech through these following elements, but we can also learn to express them consciously.
Nothing will ever get better without practice
You will often find yourself in critical points where the small talk will begin to take a monotonous direction and you will be forced to light up the situation, that is if you don’t want to lose the chat.
No matter where you are, in the elevator at work greeting your fellow colleagues, at home with your spouse, at the cashier at your local supermarket, you can use all of the above methods we listed in any situation to brighten up the air with conversational panache.
You’ll begin to find ‘conversational gems’, pieces of information that could present genuine value for you, thrown in the most casual of conversations.
And you’ll be surprised that you also will throw these ‘gems’ out for others. We can learn so much more and have nicer, more prosperous and enriched relationships if we only encourage, listen, and dance more in the rhythm of the words that we share with each other in our day-to-day lives.
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