25 Clear Signs the Relationship Is Over for Him

There is arguably nothing worse than knowing that a guy you are into doesn’t hold the same feelings you have for him. What does he want out of the relationship? How does he start acting when a man is done with you? What are the signs he wants to leave the relationship? 

These and more are some of the questions you may begin to have when it feels like your man is no longer satisfied in your relationship. 

If you aren’t exactly sure what to look out for, we will discuss the signs that the relationship is over for him for sure. 

With these in perspective, you will be equipped to make the best decision for yourself; whether to continue pushing for the healing of your relationship or to just let him go and embrace self-care. 

So, what are the signs he’s over the relationship? 

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How do you know when a man is done with the relationship?

Men are pretty much interesting humans. With approximately 31% of all relationship breakups (including divorces) being initiated by men, it can sometimes feel overwhelming when you begin to notice subtle changes in how your man relates with you. 

With this in perspective, it is sometimes important to be able to know how to tell if he’s over you. This is because if you don’t know, you may end up grasping at straws for a long time while he keeps showing the signs he is done with you. 

How do you know when a man is done with the relationship? He simply begins to put up some telltale signs to show you that. He may not come clean about it, but if you’re observant enough, you’d notice them. 

We would discuss 25 of these signs he wants to leave the relationship in a later section of this article.

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How to know if a man is unhappy in the relationship

Recent research revealed that about 29% of men in a committed relationship with one partner (including marriages) are not completely happy with their relationship. Some reasons for this unhappiness include (but aren’t limited to) low sex/sexlessness in the relationship, poor communication skills, and other personal challenges themselves/their partners may be experiencing.

Bearing this in mind, it is vital to know what to look out for, the signs that your man is becoming unhappy in the relationship. Some of these signs include; 

1. He becomes easily irritable and lashes out at every small thing, especially if he used to be a lovely person. 
2. He’s closed off emotionally from you. You feel as though reaching him for a heart-to-heart has become mission impossible.
3. He tries to stay away from anything that reminds him of the relationship. This could be the house, public functions that require you two go together as a couple, or even sleeping in the same bed as you. 
4. He simply stops taking care of himself, and doesn’t make much effort toward taking care of you again. 

If your man begins to show these in the relationship, you may want to pay closer attention and be sure that he isn’t beginning to feel unhappy and unexcited as far as the relationship is concerned. 

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25 telltale signs that the relationship is over for him

Over time, when a man is unhappy in a relationship and nothing is done to fix things, he gets to a place where he gives up on the relationship. Here are 25 signs that the relationship is over for him. 

1. He’s asking for too much space, it doesn’t make sense 

Does your man suddenly want to be anywhere but with or near you? Has it started feeling as though he isn’t just looking to be ‘alone,’ but he’s looking to be ‘away from you?’ If you feel that way, it could be one of the signs he’s over you. 

2. You feel it deep within 

In your moments of deep and sober reflection, a tiny voice in your mind also tells you something along those lines that your man is carefully getting over the relationship. It may not be the voice of cynicism. 

It could be your guts giving a name to all the crazy stuff that’s happening in your life at the moment. 

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3. You are also losing interest in the relationship 

This may be one of the rather difficult points to admit, but one of the things that happen when you begin to notice these signs a man is done with the relationship is that his coldness may begin to rub off on you as well. 

It may not be instantaneous. It may take a long time, but once this sets in, you may want to take it as your cue to let the relationship move in whatever direction that makes the most sense. 

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4. Communicating with him is like talking to the statue of liberty 

If your man is no longer interested in communicating with you (that is, he shuts down every time you try to reach him on an emotional level), that could be one of the signs the relationship is over for him. 

If he won’t converse with you or confide in you again, you may want to pay closer attention to what that could mean. 

5. He no longer initiates sex 

Research has revealed that under normal circumstances, men initiate sex more than 3 times more often than women do in a long-term, heterosexual relationship. 

This implies that in heterosexual relationships, the man is more likely to make the first sexual move. If this changes (that is, the man suddenly doesn’t seem so interested in sex, especially over an extended time frame), it could be one of the signs he’s done with the relationship.   

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6. Having sex with you feels like a chore

When he finally gets it up for you, does it feel like he’s just going through the motions and praying to be over and done with the sexual activity? If it suddenly feels like having sex with your man is a chore, it may be because he is tired of the relationship. 

7.  The people that matter to you are beginning to notice 

When your closest friends and family begin to ask (or maybe wonder because they don’t want to pry), it could be a sign that they know something’s up. Open your eyes up for the silent cues they leave. 

Do they get suddenly (and suspiciously) quiet when you talk about him? Do they give you those long, foreboding stares when you walk into social gatherings with him? If they do, you may want to probe a bit further. 

It is possible they know something you don’t. 

8. He sighs a lot when he is around you 

The thing is, you tend to sign when you are bored, pained, or peeved at something. If your man suddenly develops an inexplicable habit of sighing a million and one times when he is with you, that could be one of the signs the relationship is over for him. 

9. It suddenly feels like you are the one putting in all the effort into the relationship 

Take a quick trip down memory lane. At the beginning of the relationship, can you recall how much effort he used to put into the relationship? Can you remember how he did everything he could to make you feel special and loved? 

If the tables suddenly turned for no apparent reason and it feels like you are now the one putting in all the effort into the relationship, that could just be how to know he’s over you.

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10. He’s cheated on you more than once 

This is painful, but if you know that your man has had an external affair more than once, it could be his non-vocal way of telling you he wants out of the relationship. He might be doing that to annoy you into dumping him or simply because he’s just over the relationship. 

In any case, this is one clear sign that you should end the relationship ASAP.

11. He no longer tries to argue with you 

While it is easy to take this as a victory sign, this is anything but. 

If your man suddenly stops arguing with you or trying to make you see things (at least, the relevant things) from his lens of view, it could be because he is over the relationship, and arguing with you right now would be a waste of his precious time and energy. 

12. He now spends little or no money on you

This here is one of the clearest signs a relationship is over for men. 

If your man is suddenly unable to buy you anything, even when he has little or no responsibilities, just got a salary raise at work, or received some massive financial breakthrough in his business, it could be one of the signs the relationship is over for him. 

As controversial as this may sound, people spend money on the things that matter to them. If he’s not spending some money on you, it may be because he doesn’t think you are important. 

13. He’s always super angry 

You would notice this immediately if the guy you used to be with was a happy soul. 

When a guy constantly keeps you on edge because he is always angry, it is a sign that you may want to pull the trigger on the relationship immediately because it is no longer a safe space for you, emotionally and mentally. 

14. He is no longer interested in remembering significant dates 

If he has always been a ken and observant man, these lapses will stand out for you. Do you recall how he used to remember all important anniversaries and even be the first to send you hampers on your birthday? 

If you suddenly have to remind him that it is your anniversary today, that may just be how to know when the relationship is over for him. 

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15. He no longer talks to you about his long-term plans 

There’s almost nothing that screams “I am so done with you” than when the man you used to make plans with suddenly starts treating you like an outsider. 

16.  He now wants to fight with you over everything 

When everything seems to be a pet peeve for your man, it could be his way of telling you that he now finds you annoying, overbearing, or repulsive. 

17. At some point, he may have let it slip 

Maybe in the heat of anger, he let it slip that the only reason why he is still with you is because of factors like obligations, your children, his ego, or maybe his family. 

If this has ever happened to you, you may want to pay extra attention to the relationship because he may have just said exactly what he has in his mind. 

His actions would inadvertently echo what he said to you with his words.

18. You’ve stopped having fun with him 

Do you recall how you used to spend so much time together and how these times used to be full of fun and laughter? 

If it suddenly feels like all the fun in your relationship made a beeline out of your lives, it could be because he is tired of you and the relationship. 

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19. The lack of trust is becoming more obvious 

At first, you convinced yourself that it was all in your imagination. However, if he can’t get the suspicion away from his head and eyes (and you can’t seem to stop that nagging feeling that he’s up to no good), it could be one of the signs the relationship is over for him. 

Lack of trust is usually a sign that something bigger is happening underneath the surface.  

20. Your needs no longer get met 

We understand that relationships are all about compromise, but this doesn’t mean that you have to stifle yourself in the name of compromise. When he no longer is interested in giving you what you want in the relationship; physically, emotionally, and mentally, it is a clear sign that he’s over you. 

21. He no longer shows interest in your life 

Remember how he used to drive you to work, ask about your day, and even fine when you tell him that someone was checking you out at work? 

If he suddenly stops doing these and even stops showing interest in the big details about your life, rest assured that his attention is shifting somewhere else. 

22. He is becoming abusive 

This could be emotionally, mentally, or even physically. When a guy is over with a relationship, he may resort to becoming verbally abusive, or he may even start laying his hands on his partner. 

Abuse is one completely unforgivable thing, one thing you should never make excuses for. 

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23. He no longer takes you along when he’s going to hang with mutual friends 

One of the classical signs the relationship is over for him is that he begins to exclude you from everything, even the previously frequent hangs with mutual friends. 

If you try to confront him when he does this, he will make flimsy excuses or make you feel as though you are overthinking things for nothing.

24. He’s avoiding you 

If he suddenly prioritizes external activities like spending way too much time at work over you, that may be a sign that he wants out of the relationship. The person who truly loves and values you would make it a point of duty to spend as much time with you as possible. 

25. His presence drains you 

A relationship is supposed to be happy, joyful, and something that makes you both feel fulfilled. If, after spending a relatively long time with him, you feel spent and irritated, it could be a sign that something about him is telling you that the relationship is over. 

Conclusion

When a guy wants out, he begins to show the signs that a relationship is over for him. 

Some guys may come clean to you from the start. Others may not. However, it is up to you to read between the lines and ensure that you don’t spend your life trying to make a dead relationship work. 

If you aren’t sure how to go about things when he makes it clear that the relationship is over for him, you may need the services of relationship experts/therapists. 

To get started, you can find trusted relationship/marriage therapists here.