Friendship in marriage is cultivated and nurtured through years of married life. If you feel emotionally and physically apart, you can still build the power to nurture your friendship to desired levels.
Marital responsibilities play a big role in widening the gap between couples, but the power of friendship in marriage can help overcome it.
This article discusses some practical ideas to maintain a friendship in marriage.
The friendship between a couple can make the bonds of marriage stronger. They can share things with each other while feeling no fear of judgment from their partner. Their relationship will flourish because of this and grow stronger over time.
Here are some tips that can help you become friends with your partner:
1. Spending quality time together
The fact that you squeeze time out of your busy schedule to spend time with your partner means you value them, and they are essential for your happiness. Take out some time every day when you can reconnect with one another. If it is at the end of a busy day, find out how your partner spent the day. Allow your partner to share the day’s challenges and achievements as you offer a listening ear.
Give your input only when called to do so. If you notice a decision that you think is inappropriate, let your spouse know about it but do it with kindness.
As you begin your day, just after you wake up, share your plans for the day and finish with a prayer or some shared activity — it makes a huge difference.
2. Frequently talk to your partner
Silence in marriage harbors resentment since you think differently from your partner. But communication can resolve this problem. Communicate over everything – your friends, relatives, workmates, goals, children, etc.
Make fun of one another as you remember some sweet memories to enhance the bond. Engage in activities that you both enjoy. Compete and tease each other. Be humorous with no malice or offense. This is a great way to strengthen companionship in your marriage.
Make every activity you do together memorable. If it is a walk, make it fun by walking side by side, holding hands, and whispering sweet words in your partner’s ears. If it is a board game, record some of the silly moves and later make fun of it- it makes a difference.
Try to engage in new activities as a couple; let it be a learning experience to keep you together. In case you have any difficulty, use that as an element to try it once again together until you do it successfully. Explorations that the couples do together enhance their friendship.
4. Strive to maintain trust and honesty
Why does the love between couples fade away after a couple of years?
Complacency can lead to the development of mistrust in a marriage. Like in friendship, try and promote openness and forgiveness in your relationship. This, in turn, can help build trust between you and your partner. Trust gives you the freedom to share your challenges and achievements with your spouse.
Trust is the foundation for everything we do. In the video below, Harvard Business School professor Frances Frei explains how to build it, maintain it, and rebuild it.
5. Plan your future goals together
Replace “I” declarations with “we,” a clear sign of inclusivity.
“I wish we build our house in this city.”
The confidence of being involved in your partner’s plans leads to trust and further enhances the emotional bond between the couples.
6. Prioritize your spouse
You feel appreciated when your spouse makes it a habit to consult you before making any major decision. It means your opinion counts in their lives. Besides, it gives you a sense of responsibility in case of any plan failure.
Marital satisfaction is the work of two friends who have unconditional love for one another and are willing to sacrifice for their marriage. Being there for each other, being in constant touch, enjoying the relationship, being honest, making each other a part of one’s future, and making them a priority, can form a strong bond of friendship with a spouse. It can pave the way for long-term marital satisfaction.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action.