Having some alone time to yourself can feel like a good idea sometimes; however, there is only so much alone time that your relationship withstands before it breaks and falls apart.
While many engaged couples are busy stressing out about the expenses of being married, some couples are opting for a marriage in the city hall, and there is another group of people doing something else entirely.
Whether people choose to get married or not, many couples follow the same mode of relationship where they meet, fall in love, and then finally move in with one another.
Lately, though, some people are altering the stereotype and opting for falling in love and having a long-term relationship without cohabiting with their loved ones. This is what is known as living apart together.
Can a relationship survive ‘living apart’ after living together?
Happy couples usually express their love via physical actions such as kisses and hugs. What happens when you need a hug in the middle of the night?
Waking up in your empty bed when you are in a relationship gets old, and you will want someone to cuddle with.
Living apart together relationships work only when both the people need their space and are fine with the lack of intimacy present.
Communicating is more than just speaking. Having non-verbal communication is more important than verbal communication in your relationship.
A simple text and phone call cannot replace the thrill you feel when you make eye contact with your loved ones, or when you say good morning to one another while exchanging smiles and kisses.
While living apart together, weak communication is very common, and this leads to weak relationships.
Building trust with someone is easier to do so when you are there to look after their behavior and observe it.
How will you know if you are being cheated on when your partner is not around you most of the time? How do you tackle these trust issues?
Being in ‘living apart together’ relationships can only be pursued by people who are strong in their beliefs to stay faithful. Some people tend to use these relationships to see who is out there and also explore other open relationships.
If ‘no strings attached in a relationship’ is something that you agree with your partner, then living apart together can be a good thing for you. But if you tend to have trust issues, then avoid having this kind of relationship.
Extra effort in maintaining
Apart from the above reasons for avoiding this living apart together trend, one another disadvantage it brings is that living apart together requires extra maintenance.
All the obstacles and problems of not being in the same gathering as your partner will make you question whether your relationship is worth putting this effort in.
As wonderful as your partner may be, there are many other fishes in the sea, and when you find the person who you want to live with, you may want to end the living apart together relationships.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.