Being in love is so beautiful, but with those butterflies in your stomach, you may also experience mixed emotions.
Jealousy is one of the most common emotions we feel when in love. It’s normal to feel jealousy because it’s human nature.
However, if too much, jealousy could be annoying and even toxic. No one wants to be with someone who always tries to second guess what they are trying to say.
“Is he trying to make me jealous, or maybe he doesn’t love me anymore?”
We’ve compiled a comprehensive guide that will help you figure out if a man is trying to make you jealous or not.
Is he trying to make me jealous? What does it mean?
Love and the feeling of being in love can become complicated when we try to do things the hard way instead of just communicating with each other.
It’s true. Some men don’t enjoy talking or are uncomfortable opening up about their feelings. Guys would rather get your attention through actions that they think would work.
“If he tries to make me jealous, what does that mean?”
This is a good question. There could be many reasons a man would choose to make you jealous rather than sit down and open up.
Some guys think that seeing you jealous also means you have the same feelings for him. It’s also a way for him to get the attention he wants from you.
Immaturity is also an enormous factor in why he would go to great lengths just to see you jealous. It could also be one of the signs he’s jealous, so he’s trying to make you feel the same way.
15 possible signs your man is trying to make you jealous
“Now, I know why is he trying to make me jealous, but what are the signs to watch out for?”
Since you already know the reasons, you also want to know the different signs that he’s already doing it. It might surprise you how much effort some guys will put in just to see you fuming with jealousy.
1. He suddenly starts to talk about others, a lot
“He is trying to make me jealous as he talks about other girls with me and then pays attention to my reaction.”
He could say that he was up all night talking to a friend who is a possible competition. Or that he met someone new at work today.
A man who suddenly talks about women a lot, may it be true or not is just trying to see if he could use this to make you jealous.
This is one way he’s trying to see if your mood changes. If you do, then he could confirm your jealousy.
An old fling is back in town, or maybe just the thought of it.
You may start noticing him talking about an ex who lives nearby. He could say that they’ve accidentally met and since they’re friends, they could hang out.
He’s really not asking for your approval, and maybe that scenario isn’t even going to happen. The primary goal is to see if you’d get angry at the thought of him seeing and being close to an ex-girlfriend.
5. He becomes distant
“Now, he’s being distant with me. I don’t know if this is one of the signs he is trying to make me jealous or if he’s no longer in love with me. “
It’s true. It could be heartbreaking to be involved in a game where someone who should love you will pretend not to care to see if you’d break down.
His goal is to make you show your jealousy that there’s someone else, and she is the reason he’s being distant. For some, this could happen when his attention diminishes and you feel the distance between you.
Has he been trying to make you jealous by going out with friends more than he’s spending time with you?
If you feel like he changed and started being too socially involved with his friends and going out, there’s a chance he’s trying to make you jealous.
Another way to tell is he would press you with questions about his behavior just to see if you’d give up and admit that you are jealous.
7. He becomes super busy
Aside from being distant, he may become too busy even to see you. He could try to do this if the other tactics didn’t work. After all, some women get jealous not of other girls but of the time and presence of their partners.
If a guy tries to make you jealous using this tactic, then he’s hoping for you to ask him to spend more time with you or even go out of your way and investigate if he’s busy or not.
Either way, he just wants to see how this tactic will affect you.
12. He becomes happy when you show signs of jealousy
Here’s another way to tell if a guy is trying to make you jealous. Did you notice a smile on his face? Is he paying attention when you finally get affected and show the slightest sign of jealousy?
He wins if your mood changes or you get angry and jealous. In these cases, you’ll see his mood change. You’ll notice that little victory smile on his face.
13. He’s super busy with his phone and laughs a lot
When you’re together but he’s always looking at his phone, waiting for a chat and he also smiles and giggles a lot. Maybe he’s chatting and flirting with another woman and wants to see if you’ll grab that phone and get angry.
He’s waiting and observing you to see if you’ll show any signs that you’re getting jealous because of this behavior.
14. Using his friends to make you jealous
“I think he’s using his friends. Is he trying to make me jealous by making them tell me things?”
That’s usually the case here. Most men and their peers may have the same mindset and will go to great lengths to see some results. They are also very patient.
His friends would be the perfect medium to relay a message to you. They might tell you he’s flirting with another girl or that another girl is desperately trying to get him.
They might also watch how you react.
15. Does it more when he sees that you are affected
Unfortunately, it doesn’t stop there when you’ve finally shown jealousy. Getting the satisfaction of feeding their ego would be too exciting, so they would do more of what ticks you.
The satisfaction can be addictive to the point where they forget boundaries, respect, and love. They would focus on seeing how they could trigger you.
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Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. Sylvia believes that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one by taking purposeful and wholehearted action.