We all look forward to acceptance, love, and appreciation from people around us. When people say ‘I don’t care if people like me or not’, they’re creating an emotional wall to protect themselves from being hurt or rejected.
Being a social animal it’s natural to look at these things.
However, imagine if you come to know that there is someone who doesn’t like you. You would feel awkward with that person around. You would try to improve yourself so that they can like you. This, at times, can put you in defensive mode when they’re around and on a long run can impact you emotionally.
Let’s look at how to act around someone who doesn’t like you.
1. Be good to them
Negative emotions come forth when we realize that we are with someone who doesn’t like us.
They either might be rude or might like to exclude you from their circle or might want you to feel bad about yourself. In either case, if you get to indulge in these emotions you are not doing anything good to yourself.
So, the best want to deal with someone who doesn’t like you is to be positive and good. Treat them well. Greet them when they walk into the room and make sure their experience around you was comforting.
Don’t expect similar reactions from them, but you do your best. This way they may not hurt you even if they may have an intention to.
2. Accepting different opinions
To hope that everyone likes you and to expect everyone likes you are two different things.
It is your task to be nice and gentle with people around you and make them feel good when they’re with you. However, some people are just not going to like you, no matter what.
The moment we want everyone to like us you put ourselves in a situation wherein we are ready to go to any extent to get their attention.
This isn’t right at all.
The best way to make peace with it is to accept the fact and move on. After all, even celebrities have divided audience.
3. Be around those who like you
Our body and mind picks up energies pretty fast and they do leave a long-lasting impact on us. When you’re surrounded by people who like you, you would feel happy and motivated.
These people encourage you to be the best version of yourself.
When you’re more focused on people who don’t like you, you lose on those who like and appreciate you. You get more involved with them and surround yourself with negative energy and thoughts.
So, instead of thinking of those who doesn’t like you, be with those who like you.
4. Don’t let your self-esteem take a backseat
You expect people to like and appreciate you, but something opposite happens, you go on a panic mode. You look for options on how to act around someone who doesn’t like you since you want them to like you. You start self-doubt that you’re not good enough and others who like you may be faking it.
It’s normal, but do remember one thing, you don’t deserve someone’s approval to be you. Be confident and don’t let your self-esteem take a backseat just because someone doesn’t like you.
You’re not supposed to be liked by everyone. You’re supposed to be you.
5. Self-scrutiny won’t hurt
On the contrary, if you think people who don’t like you outnumber people who like you, a self-scrutiny won’t hurt. Sometimes, people give us a hint if we are being good or bad. There might be certain habits or a behavior pattern that is not liked by most people.
This can be identified by how many people dislike you. If you think the number is been outnumbered by those who like you, self scrutiny can help you become a better person.
So, identify that habit or behavior and work towards it.
6. Does it bother you much
Every person in our life holds someplace. Some are just acquaintance and there are some whom we adore. Some are our model and then there are some whose presence never bothers us.
So, who’s the person who doesn’t like you?
If it’s someone you adore or consider your role model, then you must find out the reason for their dislike and work towards improving it. If it’s someone whose existence doesn’t make a difference in your life, then it is better that you ignore them and focus on people who like you.
7. Rise above issues and don’t be judgmental
We discussed about being honest and making peace with the situation, but there are situations when you’re bound to work with someone who doesn’t like you. You simply can’t ignore their presence or let the issue slip under the radar. You have rise above the situation and stop being judgmental like them.
Keep aside your conflict with them and look for a peaceful solution that won’t affect their behavior and won’t impact the working condition at all.
If you’re able to do it, you’ve become a better person.
It’s not always great to have people around who dislike you. It can affect your emotionally to discover that there is someone who doesn’t like you. Above suggestions on how to act around someone who doesn’t like you will help you handle the situation better and would make your life easy.