Pregnancy brings that unique feeling of ecstasy, joy, and wonder of a new life growing within you. The initial euphoria of pregnancy for most couples is quickly overshadowed by apprehension and dread. These emotions are intimately associated with the raging but fluctuating hormones and mood swings, changes in body shape, anxiety, and fear. It is not that love and intimacy finishes with pregnancy; it’s the emotional roller coaster ride of both partners that causes intimacy problems during pregnancy. But do not despair, overcoming and reviving intimacy during pregnancy may be easier than you think.
Usually, with pregnancy, all sense of intimacy comes to a dead stop, and neither partner understands why. Both partners feel that intercourse may either harm the baby or they should just stay away from it. But intimacy is not just raw sex, it’s a gentle caress, it’s lovingly holding your partner, it’s sharing feelings, and bonding together. Here are some tips to overcome intimacy problems during pregnancy.
1. Communication is the key
Couples should talk about everything. Their hopes, dreams, fears, longings, and secret desires, especially in intimate surroundings. This keeps the couple emotionally close and boosts their intimacy. Communication can clear the common misconception that not wanting intercourse does not mean that the woman is rejecting the man. It’s all that biology going on in her body that will occasionally cause mood swings or make her more focused on the baby instead of the husband.
In many cases, the sexy image of the woman has been replaced by that of a mother in the eyes of the husband. This maternal image has lost its sex appeal that leads to intimacy problems. The woman should pay attention and not let herself be labeled as “mommy”. A woman should always think of herself as a sexual alluring being, no matter what her size. This will keep the same intimacy alive as there was before pregnancy.
2. Do not take each other or sex for granted
Keep your love alive. Remember the days when both of you started dating. Every date did not mean hot sex every time at the end of it. There was hope, happiness, and love at the end of each date with the expectation of sex. Couples should try and revive the same dating emotions during pregnancy to avoid any intimacy problems.
3. Revive the art of flirting
A happy marriage means efficient multitasking. As marriage builds, practical issues of life start pushing the romance into the background. To keep intimacy alive, especially during pregnancy, bring back the magic that crackled before marriage when both were trying to win over each other. The flattery, the courtship, the flirting; revive these and sustain these in your marriage to avoid intimacy problems.
4. Have a date night once a week
Couples must take out time for themselves. All that focus and talk about the baby is a natural killer of intimacy and communication. Couples should focus exclusively on each other and what better way than a candlelit dinner discussing sweet intimacies and reviving those lost moments?
5. Add mystery and surprise to the relationship
Marriage brings monotony to life. Pregnancy further adds to the woes of this monotony. To overcome intimacy problems, bring mystery and surprise back in your marriage. Do something that you have never done before or surprise your partner with something they were not expecting like plan a romantic candle-lit dinner, or be naughty and rent an erotic movie for the night or arrange a pleasurable candle-lit bath together. Surprise and mystery are the keys to keep that intimate spark in your married life, especially during pregnancy.
6. For men – Court your pregnant wife
Treat your wife with the same love, sensitivity, and attention that you used to give her when you were dating. All these emotions presently might be buried in the marriage duties, but bring them out and see the difference it will make in bringing both of you closer together.
7. For women – Keep him an essential part of your pregnancy
During pregnancy, husbands are often neglected. Talking to a sister or mom is easier and with the notion that they will understand the problem better than a man. But that’s a big fallacy, talk to your husband. Keep him updated on everything. Make him a part of your pregnancy. Regarding any medical intimacy issues, a couple should discuss those along with their doctor to help explain the situation.
8. For both: Remain proactive to keep intimacy alive
Couple must also work together to keep the intimacy alive. If their relationship starts to slide, both partners should revive that intimacy that is the crux that holds your values and love together.