In life, we see different people, meet different people and talk to different people. Of course, not all people have the same habits or attitude or behavior.
These differences in behavior are based on one’s thinking or simply psyche, which causes them to have negative or positive thoughts.
Narcissism is one of those negative behavioral or personality disorders. You are going to know a lot about narcissism and narcissists. Before that, you must know some necessary things like what a narcissist actually is? Or why is it a personality disorder? Or how to deal with such kind of people?
Wikipedia defines narcissism as; “the pursuit of gratification from a variety or egotistic admiration of one’s idealized self-image and attributes.”
Such type of people lack empathy. They are recognized as self-centered or arrogant in society. They need admiration all the time. So, we may refer to narcissism as a mental disorder.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
NPD is a disorder in which an individual has a habit to love his own self and habits and ignore others or exaggerate his own importance before others.
People with narcissistic approach consider themselves superior to other. This behavior typically appears in adulthood. The individual suffering with NPD has a habit of exaggerating their achievements and/or beauty.
Symptoms of a narcissist:
- Shows arrogant behavior
- Takes advantage of others to achieve their goals
- Exaggerate their own importance
- Selfishness in relationships
- Lacks empathy, disrespect the feelings of others
- Lack of responsibility
- Considers themselves important
- Suspicious of others
- Emotional reasoning
- Unable to communicate or work as a part of a team
- Envious of others or considers others are envious of them
- Needs admiration all the time
If you see people having such symptoms, know that they are suffering from narcissistic behavior.
Now, the issue is how to treat such people.
Narcissists reveal their feelings about themselves and others through their actions, jokes and sometimes normal talk. Their actions are always self-centered.
They have deep-seated insecurity inside them. They produce a distorted self-image, an oversized ego and a presumption of superiority.
The treatment for narcissist personality disorder can be challenging because people with this condition are defensive. So, it is hard to treat them but they themselves can do something for the sake of their recovery.
How to communicate with a narcissist
As communication is necessary for the treatment, you must know how to communicate with a narcissist. Discussed below are the tips to communicate with narcissists.
- You have to understand a narcissist’s point of view without expecting them to understand yours
- Choose topics for discussion in which both of you have interest and the same point of view
- If the situation starts to become tense, just take their side and say “yes” on their yes and “no” on their no. Simply, start agreeing with them
- Be ready to change the topic if they start being offended
- Don’t interrupt them by giving your views on some topic. The chances are they might attack you
- Be prepared because they are going to give a lecture about a topic that they know very little about in reality.
- Do not criticize them about anything, as they have a natural defensiveness in themselves and can attack you and criticize you back.
- Do not laugh until you’re sure they cut a joke or they are laughing too.
- Do not talk about your achievements. By doing so you allow them to talk about their achievements too, this might worry you a little.
When you are able to communicate with a narcissist, you will be able to treat them, though it is not easy there are ways you can help them get better.
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Calling them bad or jerk will make them worse rather than treating or healing them. Treat them softly and tell them about what you consider good or bad (but don’t let them realize you are talking about them).
Encouraging narcissists to feel more caring can help them improve. Individual and group psychotherapy may be useful for people with NPD relate to others in a healthier and more compassionate way.
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