Greek mythology has imparted different ideas of life with us. There’s a huge following of greek legends and myths even today.
Many people in the 21st century condone to the ancient greek myths unconditionally. The reason is, there’s some truth to it. The ancient Greeks, in their pursuit of wisdom and self-understanding, were much ahead of their time.
Love can be in any shape, form, color, and size; Lovers can love each other uniquely.
But, what is it like to love according to ancient Greek myth? Does everyone love alike, or everyone embodies a separate style of loving? What are the different types of love greeks believed in?
Today we are going to unfold one of the ancient myths related to types of love in Greek mythology. According to Greeks of the older times, only 8 types of love exist.
1. Eros or erotic love
Greeks defined this type of love as the most passionate way to love.Eros is an ancient Greco-Christian term which when translated to English means ‘Love’.
Eros creates intense sexual desires. It can be harmful if it’s excessive. With a restraint, it is worth having.
Eros is the love with no bounds and limits. It is enriched with undying passion and soaring intensity and due to which is as considered as a type of mania or madness from the gods.
2. Philia or affectionate love
This type of love is usually found among mates who are enjoying things on the platonic level. Sometimes, there’s nothing but a deep affection and sheer fondness between two people.
Also interpreted as brotherly love or friendship, Philia has been associated with a relationship wherein you get along well with some.
You cannot assume any dangerous consequences with this type of love. You’d be surrounded by a lighthearted and euphoric atmosphere if you feel Philia for somebody.
3. Storge or familiar love
Storge is a type of love found among people having blood ties.
This type of love signifies kinship and family bonds. The love children have for their parents, and the love parents have for their children is known to be storge.
This sort of love is sans any physical intimacy or sexual desire; it doesn’t happen all of a sudden and hence brings no wave of euphoria with it. It is the mildest form of love.
4. Ludus or playful love
It can also be named as young love or first sight love. It’s when you tease each other when you can hear the heartbeat loud and clear when you find out the entire world is conspiring to set you two together.
It’s a special time some people experience once in life, and some people experience countless times. This type of love has a specified time, and it expires after it.
5. Mania or obsessive love
Mania is a situation when people find themselves unable to grow. They’re addicted to one person or one way to love that person. They can’t figure out that they’re not in love, but they’re sicklily obsessed.
People who’re desperate to love and be loved are looking around for some wild adventure in life. This is no healthy form of love.
6. Pragma or enduring love
Couples in a committed long-term relationship or couples married for years are often found enduring this type of love.
Pragma makes you feel comfortable in your own skin while in a relationship. You’re not ecstatic but content with what you have.
You have made enough compromises to make your relationship/marriage work, and hence you are bearing the fruit.
7. Philautia or self-love
The ancient Greeks have suggested that self-love, self-awareness, and self-appreciation are equally important. Before loving anyone else, you need to learn to love yourself.
A person who doesn’t love himself cannot love others, true to a tee. Philautia is all about self-compassion and self-gratification.
If you’re happy with yourself, and you enjoy your own accompany, you’re struck with philautia.
8. Agape or selfless love
Being selfless is the highest human quality, which not many people endure. Agape is not a cup of tea for everyone, therefore.
Everyone dreams of a flawless lover, but only some people can love without caring about other person’s flaws, and only some people can love subduing their desires and yearnings.
Such people are gems and are found rarely.
Though, there’s a difference between loving selflesslyandloving blindly.
A person loving selflessly is aware of the other person’s flaws yet not irritated with them, while a person loving blindly is unable to recognize the shortcomings of his love.
Other types of love
There are a set of 9 different types of love in Greek mythology, which have been derived through a combination of the 8 types of abovementioned earlier.
These types of love are as follows:
These types of love exist even today, and we might know them by different names. The ancient Greeks were smart and sophisticated people and were able to decipher the addiction that love brings in our lives.
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