It is very heartbreaking to see two people who loved each other so much slowly drift apart. But it is how things are sometimes. Differences start to creep up slowly and when you become aware of how much things have changed, it is already too late to do anything to salvage the relationship.
Such a situation can be really hard and distressful. When you no longer feel the same amount of love and affection for your significant other, it tends to leave you very confused and scared.
If you figure out you are no longer emotionally connected with your spouse at a very late stage, it can be really difficult to fix your relationship.
If you are fortunate enough to notice the tell-tale signs of trouble in paradise, you may still be able to change a few key things and save your marriage from falling apart.
Reasons for emotional detachment in a marriage
There can be several reasons which might have brought your relationship to this point. Your partner may have become interested in someone else which may have caused this sudden loss of interest in you. You may have had a fight over some differences which were irreconcilable and it may have caused you or your partner to drift further apart.
Any event, any trauma in both your lives could have caused you both to draw inside your shells and now it might be too late for either of you to reconnect.
These and several other reasons may cause you or your spouse to become emotionally unavailable.
Signs of an emotionally disconnected marriage
There are a few noticeable signs of an emotionally disconnected marriage.
If you love your partner and want to save your marriage from falling apart, you should be on the lookout for these signs. If you take measures to remove the issues, you may end up saving your marriage.
1. No longer shares his/her problems with you
Married couples tend to tell each other their problems and issues in the hopes of finding comfort and a solution.
If you notice that your spouse has started handling his/her issues and problems on their own, and they no longer come to you when they are disturbed or in stress, you should know that something is definitely wrong with your relationship.
2. Loss of interest in you
If you are telling your partner about something exciting that happened to you, or if you are sharing your woes and troubles with your partner, and they show a lack of interest instead of actively participating in the conversation with you, you should know that there is trouble in paradise.
3. Unmoved by a show of emotions
If you try to gain the attention of your partner by being overly emotional, i.e. by being angry or welling up and crying, and all this leaves your partner unmoved, you should know that your partner has become emotionally hardened.
4. Indifferent to solving conflicts mutually
If you have an issue and you feel as if you are the only one putting in some effort to resolve the conflict, you should hear the warning bells ringing in the back of your mind.
5. No longer spends time with you
When you are married to someone, you enjoy being with them and spending time with each other gives you the most blessed feeling. If you are in an emotionally disconnected marriage, you will find out that your partner wants to spend less and less time with you.
If they find an excuse every time you suggest spending some quality time together, you should know that something is up.
6. Lack of interest in sex
Sex is a primal human need. If you have a physical relationship with a person you are emotionally attached with, it is bound to work its magic.
If your sex life seems to have fizzled out, and you feel like your partner is no longer interested in sex, and is making up excuses to stay out of bed, you should know that everything is not okay and normal in your marriage.
Being emotionally attracted to someone is the best feeling in the whole wide world. Having a soulful connection with your better half makes you feel satisfied and gratified.
But things don’t always remain the same and tend to run dry over the course of time There may be several reasons for that. A few tell-tale signs of an emotionally disconnected marriage have been discussed above. Going through them will probably help you in figuring out whether something is up or not.
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