If you’re having a problem and want to talk it out with your partner, how do they react?

My partner is open to communication and is a great listener

My partner frequently ignores my requests to talk about our feelings

My partner listens for a little bit but eventually loses interest

Does your spouse consult you when it comes to making big decisions that impact the both of you?

Yes, we always work together as a team

No, no spouse often makes major decisions without my knowledge

Sometimes I’m not included in these decisions

When you want to be intimate with your spouse, who usually makes the first move?

I show my spouse I am interested in intimacy and I often get rejected

I make the first move and my spouse also shows interest in being intimate

My spouse is the one who usually makes the first move and I am receptive to their advances

Does your spouse give you eye contact during a conversation?

No, my spouse often looks away when talking to me

Yes my partner always gives me eye contact

My partner gives me eye contact most of the time but could be more attentive

How do you and your partner spend your free time?

We spend quality time together as a couple

We split our time between individual and couple activities

We spend the majority of our free time apart

Do you feel comfortable voicing your opinions to your spouse?

I don’t know if I’m comfortable or not

Yes, I know my spouse wants to hear me

No, my spouse shows no signs in being interested in what I think

How often do you feel ignored, invalidated, and disregarded in your marriage?

I feel that way most of the time

There are moments when I feel that way

Do you feel like your spouse only focuses on their needs instead of yours?

No, I don’t feel that way at all

How would you describe the way your spouse affects your self esteem?

My spouse makes me feel confident and empowered

My spouse makes me feel worthless and inferior

My spouse doesn’t impact my self esteem

Do you feel like the person you married truly loves you?

I do not feel loved by my partner

I feel very loved by my partner

Emotional Neglect in Marriage Quiz

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10 Questions | Total Attempts: 4124 | Updated: Feb 24, 2022

Having a successful marriage requires an equal amount of effort from both partners. If only one person is doing their part, the other person could be left feeling lonely and unimportant. Emotional neglect can happen in any marriage, but it isn't always easy to identify. You are emotionally neglected means that your partner has failed to make your feelings a priority. They may be ignoring you at important moments, withholding affection, acting distant, or dismissing your emotions. If this sounds familiar, take this quiz to discover if you've been experiencing emotional neglect in your marriage.