One of the biggest reasons people suffer through certain mental conditions is a toxic marriage.
Many people will stay in a toxic marriage but never stand up for themselves or never get divorced because they can’t imagine surviving on their own or thinking that it is taboo.
Here are eight reasons why divorce is better than an unhappy marriage. I hope they give you the courage to lead a healthier and happier life.
1. Better health
A lousy marriage impacts your health, both physically and mentally. Your unwillingness to remove the toxic half from your life and stay in a bad marriage because you love them only makes matters worse.
Know that staying with such a person means that you are at increased risk of a heart attack, diabetes, cancer, and a weak immune system. Hence, keep asking yourself, do I want this or a healthy life I will be happy in?
If the answer is the latter, then make the change, and everything will fall into place, including your health.
2. Happier children
When a couple is in an unhappy marriage, they fail to realize that their children are unhappy. The more they see their mother or father in a bad marriage, the more confused they get about marital relationships.
Children need to be taught the meaning of compromise and respect, but seeing you suffer can scare them from marriage.
Therefore, to save your children, you need to save yourself first by getting out of a toxic marriage, and once you’re out and happy, your children will be happier.
Be honest with your children, and see the change that comes with it. They may even look at options to make you happy, and so should you.
3. You will be happy
Sometime after marriage, a couple’s lives revolve around each other, which is never a good option to be extremely codependent in any relationship.
Divorce is no less than trauma, and it takes time to heal from, but divorce is better as you will be happier doing things you love.
Life allows you to start from scratch, and that is the best thing ever.
4. A better non-toxic version of your will appear
Why divorce is good?
Once you have been through a divorce, you will notice many mental and physical changes in yourself. There will be an improvement in your mood as you will be happier getting out of the toxic environment.
You will start prioritizing yourself, you will listen to yourself, and most of all, you will be doing what makes you happy.
To feel even better, start exercising, lose some weight or gain some weight by eating right and get new clothes. Transform into the best possible version of yourself.
5. You might meet your Mr. or Mrs. Right
There are people out there who believe that everyone has Mr. or Mrs. Right, and no one can stay in a relationship with another person if they are not the right person for them.
Divorce is better because it gives you a chance to find yourself and reconnect, which eventually opens the door for falling in love with the right person and hopefully spend your life with them.
Starting over is scary, but remember that staying in a bad or toxic marriage is scarier; therefore, try to stand up for yourself if you aren’t happy.
We all are toxic in someone’s story, and you never know, you may be the toxic one in your marriage, but that does not mean that you feel bad about yourself.
When you stay in a toxic marriage, one tends to lose all their interest; the marriage stops you from doing the things you love due to which it becomes difficult to stay happy.
A life spent without happiness is draining, and no one deserves it.
The good thing about divorce is that you can start doing whatever makes your soul happy, whatever helps you grow, whatever you loved, and eventually, you will see the change it brings in you.
7. You will be hopeful
Marriage is great, but the sense of security that comes with marriage is not always correct.
Women want to stay in a marriage for many different reasons but staying married because a man will give you the security you need can be crippling for you and your husband.
If you get divorced, start finding hope and the things you need to look forward to.
You should look forward to the opportunities that await you, you should look forward to happy, positive days, you should look forward to a non-toxic environment, and you should look for the person that maybe your true love.
Divorce is terrifying, but divorce is better because it allows us to start again for a better tomorrow.
Also watch: How to cope with divorce after a long marriage.
8. Easier retreats
Divorce is better than a toxic marriage because it will help you bring the focus on yourself. When the focus is back, you will start prioritizing yourself and doing things that make you mentally and physically stronger.
Research has shown that women who are divorced and never marry again tend to spend happier lives than those who stay married to a toxic partner.
When a woman gets divorced, she usually works for her career only. She finds it better since there are no distractions.
She can end up with higher lifetime earnings, which eventually makes her buy a better house, have more money in their bank for retirement, and get higher social security benefits.
The best part is that this all belongs to them, and they don’t have to share it with someone they don’t want to.
To sum it all up, life is short, and one should do what makes them happy; by staying in a bad marriage, you are just wasting your and the other person’s time, making better choices, and staying happier.
If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the marriage.com course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.
Josh Lees is a final year psychology student. He is a passionate writer and loves to research about mental and physical health. He has published many articles regarding different mental conditions. To find out more about his journey head over to https://highclub.org/.