Does your marriage have healthy boundaries? Do you know the difference between a healthy and unhealthy boundary in marriage? Maybe you do.
As humans, we naturally seek lines of physical space that are off limits to others. Whether it's your house, your office cubicle, or just the bathroom stall you're in — there is a natural boundary that goes with our territory. Think about this same behavior being applied to marriage…
Boundaries in marriage are different from ones you’d set at work or in a volunteer capacity, right? So, does your marriage have healthy boundaries? We hope that this quiz will assist you in determining whether or not these boundaries have previously been set.
1. Do you speak with respect?
A. Yes, all the time
C. Just sometimes
2. Do you put yourself before your spouse at your expense?
B. Every now and then
C. No, never
3. Do you communicate your needs clearly?
A. We do all the time
B. Of course. The marriage is primarily built on this
C. Sometimes it could be tough
4. Do you communicate about plans?
A. Yes, with every single detail
B. Just for priority things
C. We do not have time for this
5. Do you expect your spouse to complete you?
A. Of course, when I'm going through a hard time they should do that for me
B. No, but it doesn’t mean we don’t need each other
C. Sometimes I expect each other to fix unhealed issues from the past
6. Do you respect your spouse’s no?
A. Of course, I do
B. I try sometimes to coerce them into changing their answer
C. Rarely. Because it's hard to understand and sometimes drives me crazy for real
7. Do you allow them to control themselves?
A. I can’t manage another person’s attitude, feelings, or behavior. Not ethics.
B. Why should I do that? It's easy to become a fixer and try to manage my spouse when their behavior isn't what I want it to be
C. Depends on the issue
8. Is there any physical & mental abuse?
A. No. We have enough self-esteem as to draw the line when it comes to violence
C. Not physically only mentally
9. Do you both understand each other's apology languages?
B. Yes, all the time
10. Are there any sexual limitations in your marriage?
A. Why would something like this be?
B. So confused about what is acceptable and what is not
C. Of course, there could be sexual advances that one partner might not be comfortable with