Establishing a solid sense of your boundaries is imperative to your well-being. Knowing exactly where to draw the liny helps others understand your limits and benefits your mental, physical, and emotional health. Harnessing the power to tell people "no" even when it makes you uncomfortable is a valuable tool to use in your daily life. Do you constantly burden yourself with other people's problems, or are you able to confidently decline their requests when you already have too much on your plate? Take this quiz to find out how healthy are your personal boundaries.
1. How often do you feel overwhelmed and overloaded with responsibilities?
A. I feel this way often
B. I occasionally feel this way
C. I rarely feel this way
2. You frequently get asked out on a date by someone who you are completely uninterested in. How do you respond?
A. I go on the date because you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings
B. I politely try to turn down the invitation
C. I make it clear that you are not interested and unavailable
3. When you tell someone "no," how does that make you feel?
A. I feel guilty and like I let them down
B. I feel empowered and strong
C. I hardly ever tell anyone "no"
4. Your partner keeps asking you for favors, but they rarely ever are available to help you when you need it most. How do you react?
A. I try to do what you can but only when I have the free time
B. I drop everything to do what they ask me to do
C. I try to convince myself that I’m overwhelmed with my things
5. How often have you been called "too nice" for putting up with other people's bad behavior?
A. I have never been told that
B. I have been told that quite often
C. I get told that now and then
6. Someone close to you asks you for a loan, but you are already strapped for cash. What do you tell them?
A. I am honest and tell them I don't have enough money to help them
B. I give them the last few dollars I have
C. I say I can't help financially but I offer to assist them in any other way
7. Your partner has failed to show up for things that are important to you. How do you handle it?
A. I act like everything is fine because I don't want to cause any problems
B. I let them know that I am hurt and that I need more support
C. I will break up with them. I deserve someone who appreciates me
8. Your partner often talks down to you and mistreats you. What do you do in response?
A. I give it right back, and it eventually becomes a big argument
B. I just keep allowing it without setting any limitation
C. I don't respond at all
9. How many times has someone referred to you as a "pushover”?
A. I have been called this many times
B. I have never been called a pushover
C. Once or twice
10. Your boss wants you to do lots more work but for little pay. What do you do?
A. I do what I'm asked to do and keep quiet about how I feel
B. I figure out how to ask for a raise
C. I quit and find a better job