There’s more than one way in which snoring affects your relationship. While most people are not aware that they themselves are snorers, there is no denying that the noise that occurs due to disruption of airflow annoys other people.
But that is not all, snoring is ruining your relationship in terms of sex also. According to a Mayo Clinic study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine (2008), advanced snoring and sleep disorders correlated with sexual dysfunction.
Snoring and sleep apnea are both linked to serious medical problems such as hypertension, weight gain, increased risk of heart attack, stroke, and fatigue.
Snoring affecting your relationship? Here’s how
These problems can quickly compound and affect the quality of your daily life as well as your marriage. Suppressed normal sexual functions such as libido and erection, for example, can have a huge effect on how you relate to your partner.
Both partners in the relationship are sleep deprived, suffer from lack of concentration during the day and increased fatigue. RThe reduced sexual activity also takes its toll on the grease that keeps a marriage going.
But what should you do to help the situation and (probably) save your marriage? How do you deal with a snoring spouse?
How to deal with snoring in a marriage
In most cases, a snoring partner may not be aware that they are indeed snorers. The key to fixing things is to find the right way to talk about it with your spouse in order to take the right steps toward reducing and managing the disorder.
Here are a few tips and steps you can take to deal with snoring in your marriage.
- The non-snoring partner should raise the issue first and point it out as a serious problem that needs to be resolved. The most important thing about this step is to be compassionate and positive in the way you introduce the issue to avoid making your partner angry or feel awful about his/her problem.
- As partners, try to agree on seeking medical help. You can start by visiting a sleep clinic or booking an appointment with a sleep therapist to guide you in the right direction.
- If you are the non-snoring partner, do not forget to express your clear appreciation of your partner’s efforts to take steps towards resolving the problem.
- Take steps towards improving the quality of your sleep. If you are a couple with no young children or not so much to monitor during sleep, you can try using a good set of earplugs for sleeping. They can help you block out loud noises such as heavy snoring and even the barking of your neighbor’s dog.
- If your partner is a light snorer, you can consider getting a white noise machine for your bedroom. It will even out the snores and allow you to get better quality sleep.
While one of the most commonly reported reactions to snoring in a marriage is sleeping in separate bedrooms, it is strongly recommended that you remain compassionate and find ways of staying together and working on a solution as a unit.
According to Dr. Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., a psychotherapist, sleeping closer to your partner is one of the best ways to have a better relationship.