As soon as you hear the word “authoritative” you may experience some negative connotations. This is because authority can so easily be abused.
Unfortunately, most of us have experienced some or other negative aspect of authority that has been wrongly used against us.
But authority in itself is very positive, referring to someone who is responsible to look out for the well being of others and to make sure that things run smoothly.
So, what is authoritative parenting? and how does authoritative parenting affect the child?
When a parent is fair, kind and firm, their position of authority will be respected, enabling both parent and child to learn and grow in a pleasant and harmonious atmosphere. This is the goal of authoritative parenting.
When this style is used consistently there are definitely positive effects and benefits which can be observed and experienced.
This article will discuss seven positive effects of authoritative parenting and how does authoritative parenting affects child development.
1. Provides security and support
Growing up can be scary and bewildering for a little child in the big wide world. That is why they need a place to call home, and parents who provide clear and firm boundaries so that they know what is acceptable and what is not.
Children need the security of knowing that mom and dad will always be there for them if they have struggles and questions.
When things get tough they know their parents will support them, encourage them, and teach them how to think through situations and find a workable solution.
2. Balances love and discipline
At times this can seem like a juggling act, but authoritative parents aim and strive to set high standards of behavior and achievement for their children without compromising the loving and nurturing side of their relationship.
They seek to be sensitive and understanding towards their children, without sacrificing the consequences for bad behavior.
Authoritative parents do not use harsh punishment, shaming or withdrawal of love to control or manipulate their children.
Rather they show respect to their child who is then most likely to reciprocate respectfully, and the balance of love and discipline is accomplished.
Authoritative parents are constantly encouraging their children, pointing out their strengths, helping them to work on their weaknesses and celebrating every victory.
Children are motivated to work hard and give their best as their parents recognize and appreciate their efforts.
This breeds self-confidence in the child who will not be afraid to try new things and take control of different situations in life. They understand what they are capable of, and are able to stand up for themselves.
They will learn how to be assertive and respectfully say ‘no’ if necessary as this is how they have been taught by observing their authoritative parents.
4. Teaches flexibility
Life is all about learning and growing along the way, and children who are raised with an authoritative parenting style can appreciate the need for flexibility to adapt to the inevitable changes in life.
Parents will learn from their mistakes and be willing to compromise when necessary.
They will be constantly evaluating their approach to keep pace with their children’s growth and making sure that their expectations are age-appropriate.
They will also take into account the individual personality traits of the child, whether they are shy and introverted or sociable and outgoing.
As their children progress from babyhood to being a toddler, and then a young child and teenager, authoritative parents will nurture their growing sense of independence until maturity is reached.
5. Promotes productivity
Unlike the permissive parenting style, authoritative parents are deeply concerned about the results their children achieve.
The healthy relationship between authoritative parents and their children is warm, friendly and respectful.
Children thrive in this kind of atmosphere where they know that no matter what happens their parents will love and appreciate them.
Raising your kids in an authoritative atmosphere would definitely help your kids to have a happier disposition. They would be more happy, capable, and successful and would have the ability to control and regulate their emotions.
Recognizing your child’s autonomy while teaching them authoritative discipline and offering advice with lots of warmth is what authoritative parenting is all about.
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Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.