Marriage preparation for a groom is really not all that different from how a bride should prepare. Like any bride, the grooms also need to ask themselves some crucial questions. There also feats of (emotional) strength you must perform in support of your spouse.
One essential piece of advice for the groom on the wedding day – Is your girlfriend ready to marry you? Does she also want the same things as you do from this relationship? And finally, you need to be sure you are ready for marriage or not?
If yes, then great! Congratulations! Next, concentrate on the things for the groom to do on the wedding day and also before the same day.
Marriage preparation consumes a lot of time, so it is advisable to have a keen attention-to-details and not just leave everything for the very last day. There is an entire volume of wedding checklist for the groom before the day arrives.
The groom wedding planning checklist
The following checklist will help all the expectant grooms out there to plan for the most important day in his life and is going to be the ideal grooms’ guide for wedding planning.
Marriage preparation for both the brides and the grooms is quite a lengthy and time-consuming process. So, start today with your checklist so that everything falls in place by the time you get married.
The period before the wedding day is divided into months and weeks to help you with proper planning and managing the marriage preparation properly.
6 months before the wedding
- Plan with your fiancee to select your wedding date, pick up your engagement rings, and announce your engagement.
- Understand your wedding expenses together and discuss your budget with your family
- Get a rough estimation of the number of people you are planning to invite
- Check marriage license requirements of your state
- Select your best man
- Search for the venue
- Consult a wedding planner
- Make your honeymoon plan with your partner
- Plan for your engagement party
3 months before the wedding
- Complete and consolidate your guest list with that of your fiancee
- Plan for your wedding attire and that of your best man as well as for the ushers and both the fathers
- Arrange vehicles for wedding party
- Place order for your wedding rings
- Do away with your plans – purchasing tickets, booking hotels, and so on
- Arrange for the bride’s bouquet, men’s boutonnieres, and women’s corsages
2 months before the wedding
- Plan for your rehearsal dinner
- Arrange lodgings for your guests
- Choose bride’s wedding present
- Arrange your necessary documents
- Start sending out wedding invitations
- Attend bachelor party
2 weeks before the wedding
- Get your marriage license
- Double-check all your arrangements – both for the wedding and honeymoon
- Make appointments for your personal grooming and healthcare
1 week before the wedding
- Take care of all the seating arrangements at the venue
- Start packing for your honeymoon
- Keep your funds ready for the trip after the wedding
- Start moving your belongings to your new home
- Plan for your wedding toast
- Arrange gifts for attendants at rehearsal dinner
- Groom make-up for the wedding
- Take care of the other details
Done with the checklist? Time for noting down other details to be included in the groom-preparation-for-wedding list and a few advice on things he can expect after marriage. Here are some marriage preparation tips and advice for the groom that must be remembered.
Tips on marriage preparation for grooms
1. You are a team
Do not contradict in public. Form a united front even if you know she is wrong. Discuss your disagreements when you are alone at a later time. You have moved on from your mother so it is important to cut the apron strings and side with your spouse – at least in front of her. Always.
Do not let your relationship with your mother (or best friend, child, or anyone) overtake your partnership with your spouse. No meddling allowed.
2. Know your limits
We are human and know what we are good at. There are many stereotypes that you don’t have to live up to (and frankly aren’t expected to).
Call the plumber, find an accountant, don’t let ego make a mess of major things.
3. Discuss money/career/children/religion
One of the important marriage preparation tips includes discussing subjects like money, career, children, and religion prior to your marriage.
Discuss any sticky subject matter that is important to you. Get on the same page and manage each other’s expectations. Plan your budgets.
Are you saving for a house? Where? Does either of you have to go back to school? What is the debt scenario?
All uncomfortable topics need to be hashed out and compromises need to be found for the road to be laid out smooth for the future.
4. Always maintain respect and composure
There will be disagreements. This is a guarantee.
Handle them with grace and patience; No name-calling, no grudge-holding, don’t ever retaliate. Fight fair. When it’s all over and the two of you have taken your space let your spouse know they are the most important person in your life.
Expectations come from both parties. Live up to yours.
If you make agreements be sure to stick to them. If assistance is asked for, get up and assist when asked the first time. Be strong and be patient & your spouse will look to you to be their pillar when times get dark.
Deliver on that and you will receive the same treatment in return.
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