If you and your spouse have been having issues and struggles in your marriage you may well have considered exploring the avenue of counseling for couples. But perhaps something is holding you back and you haven’t quite managed to pick up the phone and make the appointment yet. This is understandable as the subject of counseling is fraught with misconceptions, prejudices and preconceived ideas as well as some unwelcome stigmas attached to those who go for couples counseling. Some of these myths can be dispelled by taking a good look at the facts as follows:
Myth: Only ‘mad’ or ‘crazy’ couples need counseling.
Fact: Most couples who see a counselor are experiencing problems or situations in their everyday lives which is causing them stress and pressure to the point that they may feel unable to cope or function at their best in their marriage. By seeing a counselor, they are enabled to view their relationship from a clearer perspective and regain their functionality and optimal well-being.
Myth: A stranger won’t be able to help us
Fact: It is often easier to open up to a stranger, especially in a confidential and professional environment. The impartial and non-judgmental stance of the counselor will help couples to share openly about what they are going through and how they feel about their situation.
Myth: Counselors just let you do all the talking while they say nothing.
Fact: Counselors are indeed good listeners, but they are also proactive in working with you to identify core issues and to clarify your perspective. They will challenge your thinking, help you to identify possible solutions and help you as a couple to explore your beliefs and ideas that may be limiting your relationship.
Myth: It’s going to take ages and I haven’t got all that time to waste.
Fact: Counseling can take as long as it needs to and will depend on the complexity of the issues being dealt with as well as the personality of the couple concerned. You cannot put a time limit on the amount of care, thinking space and attention that a couple may require in order to get their marriage back on track.
Once these myths have been dispelled, you will be free to go forward and enjoy the benefits and positive results waiting for you and your partner when you receive couples counseling.