1. How interested does he seem in what is going on in your life?
A. He always seems concerned and is there to listen. He always remembers important things in my life or specific things we’ve talked about and wants to know everything about me.
B. He listens and we talk about my life, but sometimes I am not sure if he is actually interested or cares. He does remember things about me, but not all of the time.
C. I try to share things about my life with him, but it always seems like I have to initiate the conversation and I don’t know that he really cares.
D. I am rarely able to have important conversations with him. It always seems like he avoids important topics or doesn’t seem interested in the conversation much. I feel like I say the same things over and over.
2. How much effort does he put into the relationship and making sure you are happy?
A. He will do just about anything to put a smile on your face. He will think of creative ways to show you he cares.
B. He occasionally surprises me with a gift or a date night, but I wish it were more often.
C. He will go out of his way to do something nice for me, but usually after we have an argument about how he doesn’t do it on a regular basis. I wish he would just do it without me having to fuss over it.
D. He doesn’t seem interested in doing things that he knows will make me happy. I don’t even know if he really even knows what would make me happy.
3. How much do his friends know about you?
A. Whenever I am around them, they ask about certain things going on in my life that shows he’s been talking me up.
B. They know a lot about me, but I am not sure how much he talks about me when I am not around.
C. They don’t know too much about me, but I try to share things with them as well. I don’t think he shares things about me when I am not around and sometimes it feels like he avoids bringing me when he has plans with his friends.
D. I have barely met his friends and he doesn’t seem interested in bringing me around them. He always has an excuse.
4. Is he thinking of you often and shares it with you?
A. He often sends me texts throughout the day to check in or tell me something he saw or heard that made him think of me.
B. We communicate throughout the day most days, but I am not sure how often he is reminded of me. He is very busy, but he might.
C. He doesn’t ever share things like that with me, but he used to.
D. I don’t think he thinks of me or is reminded of me when I am not around.
5. How does he interact with you on social media?
A. He is always liking my posts or asking me about different things I shared or comments on my page. I can tell he tries to share my interests.
B. We follow each other on social media, but he doesn’t always interact with my page. He does sometimes.
C. He used to like and comment on all of my posts and tag me in things, but he doesn’t do that much anymore.
D. We aren’t following each other on social media. I requested to follow him, but he hasn’t accepted it yet. He says he doesn’t go on often.
6. Does he care what you think or how you feel?
A. Yes, he always values my opinion and asks for my advice when he is dealing with a difficult situation or trying to make a tough decision.
B. Yes, I think so, but he doesn’t always listen to my advice.
C. Sometimes, but not as often as he used to.
D. I don’t think it matters to him how I feel or what I think. He doesn’t ever ask for my opinion and when I offer it anyway he doesn’t seem to care.
7. Does he make you feel attractive and like he desires you?
A. Definitely, he is always very affectionate and makes me feel like the most beautiful girl in the world.
B. Yes, I know he is attracted to me, I just wish he would make me feel that way all the time.
C. I am not even sure anymore. He used to make me feel that way all the time, but lately I don’t even know if he is attracted to me anymore.
D. I think he is attracted to me, but he doesn’t make me feel special or like I am all that he desires.
8. Do you spend a lot of time wondering where he is, what he is doing or who he is with?
A. No, I always know what he is doing and who he is with and vice versa.
B. No, not often. It does happen on occasion if he’s out with his friends and forgets to check in with me for a few hours.
C. Sometimes, but it seems more frequent lately.
D. I rarely know where he is, who he is with, or what he is doing. If I ask, he will either not reply, or criticize me for asking.
9. Does he think you are funny? (Even if you know you are not!)
A. Yes, we are always laughing when we are together and always have a good time. We have so many inside jokes and we can be totally goofy with eachother.
B. Yes, he laughs at all my stupid jokes and we have a good time together. I just wish it happened more often.
C. Sometimes yes and sometimes no. There are times I feel he enjoys my company and we have fun together, but other times it feels like he is annoyed even being around me.
D. Sometimes I feel like he thinks I am funny, but if I bring up a funny moment later he doesn’t seem as amused or sometimes doesn’t even remember.
10. Do you feel like he is thinking about you? (Trust your gut!)
A. I definitely do, but I just want to be sure.
B. I do most of the time, but sometimes I am not sure.
C. Most of the time it feels like he is not.
D. I really don’t think he is thinking about me, but I could be wrong!