1. When you bring up issues, are you often convinced that you are the one with the problem?
2. Do you feel that you are losing your mind when you try to communicate issues with your spouse?
3. Do you feel like you have developed your own anxiety or depression as a result of what’s been happening in your marriage?
4. Do you feel like your spouse has two different personalities; one that you see when they are with their friends and a totally different personality when they are at home?
5. Do you feel like you are often walking on eggshells trying to avoid upsetting your spouse?
6. Have you started enjoying the time when your spouse is not home because the atmosphere is so uncomfortable and tense when your spouse is there?
7. Does your spouse talk about wanting to change, but then never actually does anything to change?
8. Does your spouse engage in manipulative behavior that includes verbal assaults, isolating you from friends and family, intimidating you or even sexual coercion?
9. Does your spouse ever take accountability for his actions or accept responsibility for his behavior?
10. Does your spouse seem to create chaos out of nothing in the home unless they are getting their way?
11. Is your partner often wrongly convinced that you are lying to them?
12. Does your partner act as a spoil sport for any activity or experience that is fun?
13. Do you have to remind your husband to be more considerate towards others?
14. Does your husband overreact to situations?
15. Do you often find him unable to see things that are often obvious to others?
