Heartbreak can be difficult, and it affects different areas of our lives. Whether it’s future romantic relationships, family, friendship, work, or passion, heartbreak can impact every part of our lives. It's something many people will go through at some point. It can be a physical and emotional experience that takes time to heal. While giving yourself that time and space to heal is essential, isolating yourself can be more harmful than helpful. If you're feeling heartbroken and need guidance, you may find it helpful to take this quiz to assess your level of heartbreak and see what next steps make sense for you.
1. Do you find yourself feeling physically ill when thoughts about the other person overwhelm you?
A. Yes, for sure
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
2. Do you feel like you've lost part of your identity after the heartbreak?
A. Yes, I feel like I don't know who I am anymore
B. Sometimes, I question my identity, but I'm trying to rediscover myself
C. No, I still have a strong sense of self
3. Have you been having intrusive thoughts about the past relationship?
A. Yes, they constantly invade my mind
B. Sometimes, they come up now and then
C. No, I can control my thoughts about it
4. How has the heartbreak impacted your sleeping patterns?
A. I can't sleep at all; every night is a struggle
B. Sometimes, I have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep
C. My sleeping pattern hasn't changed much
5. Do you feel like the heartbreak has affected your self-esteem?
A. Yes, I feel really down about myself
B. Sometimes, I have moments of self-doubt
C. No, I still have confidence in myself
6. Are you finding it difficult to trust others after the heartbreak?
A. Absolutely, I find it hard to open up to anyone
B. Sometimes, I am cautious but try to give people a chance
C. No, I still have faith in others
7. Can you follow through with plans and your old routine?
A. Yes, for sure
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
8. Have you been ignoring your physical appearance and mental needs?
A. Yes, for sure
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
9. Do you lack the motivation to do the things that you used to love doing?
A. Yes, for sure
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
10. Do you find it hard to focus on your studies/ work?
A. Yes, for sure
B. Sometimes
C. No, not really
11. How much do you think about the heartbreak?
A. I don’t think about it much, just occasionally
B. I can think of nothing else
C. I think about it a fair amount as random things keep popping it into my mind
12. Choose a romantic movie to watch now?
A. Silence of the Lambs
B. Bridget Jones’ Diary
C. 10 Things I Hate About You
13. Can you let go and move on?
A. I already have
B. I think I will be able to one day
C. It seems unimaginable for me to move on in life
14. Choose a song to listen to.
A. Dancing On My Own - Robyn
B. I Will Always Love You - Whitney Houston
C. No Scrubs - TLC
15. Are you cutting yourself off from others?
A. I see friends/family/ potential lovers at least twice a week
B. I just hate seeing people right now because I can talk about nothing else
C. I see some friends and loved ones occasionally
16. Does it feel like you will ever recover?
A. Recover? Yeah, I mean I’m feeling okay.
B. I know I will, but it feels really hard
C. No
17. What will happen if you just run into the person who broke your heart?
A. I might feel like puking and run away
B. My heart would beat rapidly and I’ll try to avoid them
C. We would exchange pleasantries
18. How do you feel right now?
A. I’m sad and frustrated but also it is getting better
B. I feel ill, really sad and tired
C. I’m feeling fine
19. Have you moved on?
A. Oh yeah, I have so many crushes and I’m dating constantly
B. How could I do that? I can’t imagine being with someone else
C. I can’t quite get there yet, but I have light crushes
20. Are you crying a lot?
A. More like weeping
B. Never
C. I cry a little bit
