Have you been struggling with controlling your emotions or feelings? Do you feel like you didn’t get all of the love and unconditional support from your parents that most people get? Do you feel like you were ignored or not cared about while growing up, and has it created issues that you still struggle with?
First, you are not alone if you are feeling this way. And second, regardless of how many children experience this in childhood, it is not fair, and it should not happen.
Sometimes abuse is hard to identify. You might spend time questioning whether your experience can be truly seen as abuse.
If you worry that you might be suffering from emotional abuse from your parents, take this quiz to see if you are.
1. Did you feel like your parents were critical of everything and impossible to please?
A. Yes, definitely
B. Sometimes
C. Not really
2. Do you feel like you still have anger or resentment towards your parents from your childhood?
A. Yes, definitely
B. Sometimes
C. Not really
3. Do you or did you ever engage in very risky or self-destructive behavior (i.e., promiscuity, alcohol/substance abuse, etc.)?
A. Yes, definitely
B. Sometimes
C. Not really
4. Were your feelings often dismissed or ridiculed as a child?
A. Yes, definitely
B. Sometimes
C. Not really
5. Did you often feel like your parents were nice to other people, but they weren’t that way in private?
A. Yes, definitely
B. Sometimes
C. Not really
6. Do you tend to blame yourself for other people’s behavior or actions?
A. Yes, definitely
B. Sometimes
C. Not really
7. Do you feel like your parents were extremely strict and never gave you any room for independence?
A. Yes, definitely
B. Sometimes
C. Not really
8. Did your parents often give you silent treatment when they were upset with you?
A. Yes, definitely
B. Sometimes
C. Not really
9. Did your parents often make you feel guilty for your behavior or words?
A. Yes, definitely
B. Sometimes
C. Not really
10. Do you feel like your parents weren’t emotionally available when you were struggling as a child?
A. Definitely
B. Sometimes
C. No, not at all
11. Did your parents try to talk to you to sort out problems in your life?
A. No, not at all
B. Sometimes
C. Yes, all the time
12. Did your parents make you feel that you were ungrateful?
A. Yes, all the time
B. Sometimes
C. No, not at all
13. Did your parents use abusive language when they were angry about something you did?
A. Yes, all the time
B. Sometimes
C. No, not at all
14. Do you think that you are unlovable?
A. Yes, all the time
B. Sometimes
C. No, not at all
15. Do you feel like your parents were more moody than other parents?
A. Yes, definitely
B. Sometimes
C. Not really
