1. Do you feel like your parents weren’t emotionally available when you were struggling as a child?
2. Did you feel afraid to express your true thoughts or emotions around your parents?
3. Were your parents' punishments harsh or disproportionate to your actions?
4. Did your parents make you feel like their approval was conditional on meeting their expectations?
5. Did your parents compare you to others in a way that made you feel inadequate?
6. Did your parents make you feel like your achievements were never good enough?
7. Do you believe that you are unlovable?
8. Did your parents use abusive language when they were angry about something you did?
9. Did your parents make you feel that you were ungrateful?
10. Did your parents try to talk to you to sort out problems in your life?
11. Do you feel like your parents were more moody than other parents?
12. Did your parents often make you feel guilty for your behavior or words?
13. Did your parents often give you silent treatment when they were upset with you?
14. Do you feel like your parents were extremely strict and never gave you any room for independence?
15. Do you tend to blame yourself for other people’s behavior or actions?
16. Did you often feel like your parents were nice to other people, but they weren’t that way in private?
17. Were your feelings often dismissed or ridiculed as a child?
18. Do you or did you ever engage in very risky or self-destructive behavior (i.e., promiscuity, alcohol/substance abuse, etc.)?
19. Do you feel like you still have anger or resentment towards your parents from your childhood?
20. Do you feel your parents were critical of everything and impossible to please?
