Things to Consider Before Giving up on Your Marriage
When you’ve been with your spouse for a long time, love grows, and love fades. You won’t believe me when I tell you, that both happen, and it is totally normal.
Couples at some point, cross the honeymoon phase into companionship, they are exposed to not so beautiful aspects of their better halves, fights over stupid matters erupt, and they find themselves *this* close on giving up, but the question is…should they?
Honestly, the answer to that depends upon what you want, for your happiness, you can choose to give up or fight it out.
On the brighter side, this is a common issue that most couples face, at some point in their lives.
What can you do about it?
The good thing is, there are many things you can do to change the downward slope of your marriage, all you require is strength and dedication.
We’ve highlighted the few, most essential tips you need to consider:
- Understand that you are also part of the problem, take responsibility for your actions.
- Give each other space and time, to think over.
- Stop the blame game.
- Remind yourself that you adore your partner, and you willingly decided for many wonderful reasons, to spend the rest of your life with them…despite their faults.
Now that you have the above-mentioned tips in mind go through our in-depth tips and explanations you can implement to save your marriage because it is worth it!
Stop comparing
Most marriages face turmoil because one of the two compares their relationship to others in their lives.
You might be compelled to think that the neighbors have a better marriage, just because they post a lot on Facebook, but what guarantee do you have that they believe exactly the same about you?
Comparing is a big blunder, avoid it.
Stop fueling already heated topics
When you start arguing with your already disgruntled husband/wife, you are treading in dangerous areas, one wrong word and it can blow out of proportions. Try to stick to the real facts and not speculations, and try to talk things out in a more civil manner.
Let the heart love
What we mean by that is you love your partner, and maybe the lack of physical affection can be the reason behind the distance between you and your spouse.
Take out some of your time to hug your spouse, even a simple touch from your beloved can reduce stress hormones, its science!
Don’t avoid budding issues
One of the best advice any marriage counselor gives is to prevent rather than a cure. When you feel something is going to be a problem that can put a strain on your marriage, shut it down in the earlier stages, don’t let negativity fester in your home. This will also help bridge the communication gap between both of the partners.
Develop a hobby together
You can scoff, but this is profoundly significant. When you develop a hobby with your partner, like running together at night, you are doing multiple things at once. You are spending time together, inadvertently talking to each other and increasing your presence in your partner’s schedule.
Live and let live
Understand that just like you, your spouse is human, and making mistakes is being human. Learn to forgive and put things behind you as you progress in your life. Going back to old wounds will only increase the hurt!
Giving up on a marriage is hard, but saving it is even more hard work, anything that is worth it demands work, dedication and a desire to fight against all the odds. We hope these tips help you save your marriage, and make you think otherwise about letting it go. Good luck!
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Sylvia Smith loves to share insights on how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. As a writer at Marriage.com, she is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt this principle in their lives too. By taking purposeful and a whole-hearted action, Sylvia feels that every couple can transform their relationship into a happier, healthier one.
