The holiday season is a time for family, love, food, fun, and fellowship.
It’s during the holidays, when couples cuddle the most, cook together, plan travels and activities together, and enjoy being with each other the most.
The holiday season brings out the best in some couples.
Couples make memories together, create their own sense of shared meaning, enjoy watching movies and listening to holiday music together.
But for some couples, this is not the case, and their holiday season is a little different, and many are forced to be apart during the holiday season.
For example, couples who live in different states, military couples, couples whose spouse or significant other is deployed, and couples who may live in the same state, but are many miles away from each other, have a difficult time staying connected during the holidays.
It can be very hard to smile, to be happy, to have holiday cheer and to stay positive when you and your mate are not together. And, because the holiday season is known as a time for families to be together, it can often cause couples to feel down and lonely about not physically being together.
But there is hope, and times have changed.
You and your mate can still be connected and stay connected during the holiday season.
It’s much easier to handle being apart nowadays than it used to be, and you don’t have to allow distance to put a strain on your relationship.
Just because you may be separated during the holiday season, doesn’t mean you can’t be connected.
Technology bridges the gap between you two during festivities
One of the biggest changes that have occurred over the years is the use of technology.
Almost everyone has access to a cell phone, computer, laptop, notebook, smartwatch, cameras, microphones, headsets, webcams, or has access to one or more of these devices, which makes it possible to stay connected during the holiday season.
There are so many different ways to stay connected, so don’t get caught up in feeling down and out about you and your mate not physically being together.
Start now and think about ways you can stay connected
Keep in mind, being connected with your mate is about making memories, having activities that you do together, spending quality time together, and being creative when you’re apart.
Being connected is about making time for each other and deciding and agreeing together on ways to stay connected during the holiday season.
it’s about being creative and giving of your time, it’s about doing things that you both like that bring you closer, and being there for each other, especially when either one of you is feeling down because you’re apart.
When you’re not physically with your mate during the holiday season, you have to be as creative as possible – I know I’ve mentioned being creative many times, but it’s true.
For example – You and your mate already know that you’re going to be apart.
So, here are 10 simple things you can start planning and can do so that the time apart is a less painful transition-
1. Communicate and create schedules
Decide how you will communicate and create a schedule that blocks off days and times just for you and your mate.
2. Prepare a contigency plan during emergencies
Create a schedule for how you will deal with emergencies and changes that may prevent you from communicating on your scheduled day and time.
You want to make sure you have another plan in place, in case changes or emergencies occur.
3. Plan out the medium to use for communication
Decide if you are going to communicate via cell phone, text messaging, computers, social media, messenger, webcam, laptops, skype, tango, video chat, emails ecards, etc.
4. Create a care package for your partner
Create a care package for your mate and fill it with all their favorite items.
Examples – Homemade baked cookies, favorite foods, gift cards, books, ornaments, pictures, and other items that put a smile on your mate’s face and warms his/her heart.
Schedule time together to watch your mate open the care package or ask your mate to create a video of him/her opening the package and send it to you.
5. Plan out a movie date
Find a movie you both like or haven’t seen and watch it together via skype, facetime, webcam, or use other types of technology.
There are other creative ways to stay connected with your partner even though you are physically apart from him or her.
- Create a funny video and a serious video expressing your love, appreciation, and support, and send it to your mate.
- Send your mate a singing telegram to their home or workplace.
- Create a YouTube video singing your mate’s favorite holiday song.
- Create gift basket and have it delivered, that includes your mate’s favorite things to do and favorite things to eat during the holiday season.
- Send your mate an email, text, or a picture every day that expresses your love, care and appreciation.
Distance matters less to stay connected and make memories
There are so many ways to stay connected and make memories together during the holiday season, and just because you’re apart doesn’t mean you can’t do things to stay connected and do things that bring you closer.
You have to be creative, you have to be willing to do something different, you have to come up with meaningful ways to show you care, to show appreciation and to show your love.
Distance doesn’t have to lead to feelings of loneliness.
If you and your mate work together to make this holiday season a success for you both, even though you’re apart.
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