Navigating your way through the experience of having feelings for someone is quite a complicated journey. There’s a lot of guessing involved about whether the person you’re with truly loves you.
It is harrowing. However, there are some tell-tale signs that indicate whether you’re a fool in love. Yes, sometimes it’s difficult to figure out whether you’re being a fool for the sake of love but don’t worry.
When you catch feelings and think you’re in love, you can do some things that are not smart, whether to figure out for sure that the person you love reciprocates your feelings or to feel loved and important by that individual.
It happens to most people at least once in their lives. What does a fool in love mean? A fool is someone who shows a strong lack of sense or judgment in a specific situation. A fool in love shows this lack of sense or judgment when it comes to love.
Being fooled in love comes from a place of an unclear understanding of love. Love is complicated. So, being a fool in matters of love happens fairly often.
Then there’s a significantly different perception and understanding of love coupled with the differentlove languages that make it very easy to be a fool in love.
So, to get clarity regarding being a fool in love and how not to be a fool for someone’s love, continue reading!
Here’s a list of signs, some direct signs, and some subtle signs that you may have ignored or missed that is characteristic of a fool in love:
1. Dropping the L bomb on the very first date
Did your partner say “I love you” on the very first date? What happened after that? Did you both have sex? Well, even if you didn’t, it’s not a smart move to say something so special the first time you meet someone.
Things may feel awkward. Your partner probably tried to fool in love. This is also an indication of an unclear understanding of the meaning and weightage of the concept of love.
2. Feeling like you’re in love with more than one individual
A strong sign that you may be just a fool in love is if you have strong feelings for more than one individual. It means that you’re probably confusing the meanings of lust and love.
Maybe you’re lusting. You may want a lot of options when it comes to being with someone. But love isn’t a multiple-choice situation.
3. Listening to people’s opinions and understanding of love
As mentioned earlier, love is complicated. It is abstract as a concept.
So, different people have different interpretations of love. If you’ve given into other people’s opinions of love, you’re probably a fool in love.
4. Disclosing too much about yourself too soon
It’s good to express some vulnerability. But being vulnerable is not something that needs to be rushed.
If you’ve been in situations where you will disclose way too much information, especially delicate information about yourself, in the beginning, stages of a relationship, you’ve probably been the fool in love.
5. Your potential partner knows way more about you than you about them
This goes hand in hand with disclosing too much private information about yourself from the get-go. When you reveal too much about yourself very quickly, you’ve probably tipped the balance.
If you feel like you know very little about the one you’re dating, but they know a lot about you, you’re the fool in love.
6. Your partner doesn’t invite you over to their place- ever
If it’s been a while since you started dating your partner and they still haven’t invited you to their place, it might be reflective of the fact that your partner isn’t serious about you.
And if they have been to your home several times and they still haven’t considered inviting you over, that’s another sign that you’re a fool in love.
7. You haven’t met anyone close to your partner
When being fooled by someone you love, you probably haven’t met anyone close, be it a close friend or a relative of your partner. This is even more worrisome if you’ve been together for a long time and still haven’t met their loved ones.
It may be indicative of the fact that they’re not very serious about your romantic relationship. Your partner may not have a long-term commitment with you in their mind.
8. You’re being lied to about your partner’s livelihood
A very direct sign of being played for love is if you have a strong gut feeling that your partner is lying to you about their livelihood. If your partner has been caught lying about their career, consider moving on.
9. You’ve been cheated on
Although no relationship or person is perfect, one or more instances of infidelity is a direct sign that you’re being played by your significant other. Frequent instances of infidelity where you’ve caught your partner betraying you are not good.
10. One word replies to your messages
Are you always initiating conversations via text? How do they respond? Go through your conversations with your partner and check how they respond.
If one-word replies are all that you get and they’re all delayed replies, you’re being played. It shows a pertinent lack of interest in a relationship from your partner’s end.
11. They never call
Along with poor texting skills, if your partner rarely calls you or video calls you, it’s another sign that they may not be serious about the romantic relationship. And unfortunately, it may show that they aren’t ready for a proper romantic relationship.
And if you’ve often gone through days or weeks where you’ve tried to call them or contact them, and they don’t respond at all, you’re hurting yourself. They aren’t serious. They may just be considering this relationship to be a fling.
12. Your partner is often late to meetups and dates (without any heads up)
Life is busy. So, it’s understandable to be late sometimes for meetups or dates. But if this happens very often or every time you decide to meet him, it’s not good.
This is very disrespectful. They probably don’t even respect you enough to put in the effort to be punctual on dates or meetups. And not giving a heads up about being late is hurtful.
Watch this video to understand how to react if he says the ‘L’ word too soon:
13. Your partner forgets about date nights and ghosts you
When you’re a fool in love, you’ve probably been ghosted on date nights, or you’ve heard your partner say that it completely slipped their mind that they had to meet you.
This is disrespectful and callous behavior, again indicative of the fact that they aren’t relationship material. They may be immature or with you for their own benefit.
14. Nobody (in your partner’s circle) knows that you exist
It’s alright to not disclose the fact that you’re with someone in the very early stages of that romantic relationship. But if it’s been several months and your partner still hasn’t disclosed to their loved ones that they’re with you, it’s a warning sign.
You may even be aware that you’re a fool to love your situation.
15. Conversations about future plans are conveniently dodged
Maybe you’ve tried to initiate conversations about your future plans concerning your career or your relationship. How did they react? Do they conveniently try to talk about other stuff unrelated to future plans?
If this has happened several times, it’s time to realize and accept that they may be too immature for a long-term commitment. They may not be serious about the relationship or even perceive this bond to be a relationship.
How to stop being a fool for love
A fool for love is a fool for pain. It’s true. Having read through all the different subtle and direct signs that you’re potentially being played, you may have figured out that you’re getting yourself hurt.
Well, you can protect yourself by learning how to stop being a fool.
Remember the following points to stop yourself from being played for the sake of love by your partner:
Don’t settle for less
Try to be mindful of the fact that you don’t need to settle for mediocrity or the bare minimum. Know that you deserve better than this, and once you do, you will only settle for nothing but the best for yourself.
It’s time to take off the rose-tinted glasses and judge the situation at face value. Don’t trust people if your gut instinct says otherwise. At the end of the day, not everyone except you will have the best intentions for yourself.
Don’t allow someone to treat you like an option
It is okay to be nice and giving. This doesn’t mean you allow someone to take advantage of you. Don’t allow yourself to be treated like a doormat who can be disrespected.
Understand your self-worth
Work on your self-respect and self-esteem. Working on your confidence and self-concept will help you set your standards for relationships and how you should be treated by the people that you love.
Your partner is not being a fool for love. So, why should you? Letting yourself get hurt and disappointed is not fair. Don’t settle for poor treatment or someone who does the bare minimum for you.
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Rachael Pace is a noted relationship writer associated with Marriage.com. She provides inspiration, support, and empowerment in the form of motivational articles and essays. Rachael enjoys studying the evolution of loving partnerships and is passionate about writing on them. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together.